I M Perfect lady

What I have noticed is that in order for some to maintain a certain reality, I become the one with the problem.  It is easier to label me incorrectly than it is to label correctly reality.

I did not realize how powerful I am, how many choices I have made, how many lives I controlled…because I am being blamed for them.  

A marker of abuse, is that the blame is never put upon the one doing the harm; instead it gets put upon the one who isn't.  A victim's mind has been turned against the one who isn't responsible and away from the one who is.

I know this seems incredibly insane…but it happens time and time again.  Take it from me.  I am blamed, while the abusers are held in high esteem.

What is so maddening, is that I now am left in the position of being bad and they will not have proof about my badness and yet feel desperately that I am the bad one….and feel loving kindness coming from the abuser.

Loving kindness from an abuser???

In order to survive or due to extensive grooming, this is the natural outcome from absue. A confused mind…that can't see the truth anymore.

The grooming process IS to get the victim to not see the evil, not feel the evil, to feel instead love.

How do you unhook this twisted mind/heart abused mess?

When in the recesses of the mind, a switch has occurred and they can't even see it, for it happened gradually overtime. A good groomer is patient, is manipulative, saturates the mind relentlessly, until the mind of that person is convinced incorrectly the truth of the land.

It has been the most frustrating for me to witness the affects of abuse…in the mind.

The physical scars can heal, but the mind runs along messed up for years and lifetimes…totally convinced and in full belief of a itself AGAINST reality.

An abused mind cannot discern of itself what is real and what is not.

It has lost its connection to reality.  A perfect companion for a man who is not kind.

For the victim can no longer see or discern his behaviors as being not nice.

As he becomes the knight in shining armour, I become the enemy….

I stand resolutely on the land of reality and clutching the truth, always.

I am asked time and time again, to let it go….to instead see the relationship hanging in the balance. To relent and let go. To just give up and 'be kind'.

Like I am the problem and not their view of reality.