I M Perfect lady

I am reading the book "Awaken the Giant Within" By Anthony Robbins.  

A quote first

"Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, thre is one elementary truth – that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too." Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

He goes on to write,

"If making decisions is so simple and powerful, then why don't more people follow Nike's advice and "Just Do It"?  I think one of the simplest reasons is hat most of us don't recognize what it means to make a real decision. We don't realize the force of change that a congruent, committed decision creates.  Part of the problem is that for so long most of us have used the term "decision" so loosely that it's come to describe something like a wish list.  Instead of making decisions, we keep stating preferences.  Making a true decision, unlike saying, "I'd like to quit smoking, is cutting off any other possibility.  In fact, the word "decision"  comes from the Latin roots de, which means "from" and caedere, which means to cut.  Making a true decision means committing to achieving a result, and then cutting yourself off from any other possibility."

"When you truly decide you'll never smoke cigarettes again, that's it. It's over!  You no longer even consider the possibility of smoking.  If you're one of the people who's ever exercised the power of decision in this way, you know exactly what I'm talking about. An alcoholic knows that even after years of absolute sobriety, if he fools himself into thinking that he can take even one drink, he'll have to begin all over again.  After making a true decision, even a tough one, most of us feel a tremendous amount of relief. We've finally gotten off the fence!  And we all know how great it feels to have a clear, unquestioned objective."

"This kind of clarity gives you power. With clarity, you can produce results that you really want for your life.  The challenge for most of us is that we haven't made a decision in so long we've forgotten what it feels like.  We've got flabby decision making muscles!  Some people even have a hard time deciding what they are going to have for dinner."

"So how do you strengthen these muscles?  Give them a workout!  The way to make better decisions is to make more of them. Then make sure you learn from each one, including those that don't seem to work out in the short term; they will produce valuable distinctions to make even better evaluations and therefore decisions in the future. Realize that decision making, like any skill you focus on improving, gets better the more often you do it. The more often you make decisions, the more you'll realize that you truly are in control of your life.  You'll look forward to future challenges, and you'll see them as an opportunity to make new distinctions and move your life to the next level."  Tony Robbins

I did not know that decisions were about cutting from your life the things you no longer want.  

I however completely understand and have made decisions that have affected my life.  I choose to no longer tolerate abuse in my life.  I cut it out.  I do not waver on this, nor is it a preference.

The other part that I agree with is the part of ruling out the possibilities, by committing…and that decision making isn't about preferences, but rather about cutting from your life something you stand against.

What I see lots of, in my family of origin, are poor decisions…or perhaps the lack of cutting from their lives…yet stating they too are against abuse.  Really?  What have you cut out?

If you don't cut something out you have not made a decision…or perhaps you have made the decision to keep things the same.