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In this world, hate never yet dispelled hate. Only love dispels hate. This is the law, ancient and inexhaustible. —BUDDHA 

 Daily reading from Mark Nepo's  "The Book of Awakening"

"One of the most difficult things about healing from being hurt by others is how to put wounds to rest when those who have hurt us will not give air to the wound, will not admit to their part in causing the pain. I have struggled with this deeply. Time and again, I find myself confusing the want for justice with the need for a witness of the wound."

" Physical wounds are hard to miss, but emotional wounds are seldom visible. This is why they must be looked at and acknowledged if we are ever to heal. Yet so often, our pain is compounded by the very human fact that we may never agree on the nature of what happened. If we do, we may never admit it to each other. Or the amends we feel we so deserve may go with the hurtful one to the grave." 

"As with so many other crucial negotiations of life, what's required is to honor what lives within us. We must bear witness to ourselves, for there is no power as embracing or forgiving as the authority of that portion of God that lives in each of us."  

His exercises for today… 

Sit quietly until you begin to feel safe, and bring into view a wound that hasn't healed. 

Breathe steadily and look directly at the wound, bearing witness to yourself and all you've been through.  

Breathe fully, and let your compassion for yourself be the air to cleanse the wound. Mark Nepo

What I love about his words today, is that what we are seeking is for the other to air our wounds WITH us, and they don't.  Or, we want there to be a witness of the wound; someone to see us…and we prefer it to be the one who hurt us.

I agree with him, that it is vastly important for us to view our own wounds and air them out…regardless if the others agree on what happened or not, you know. 

In knowing, sit with your self and honor your wound…be your own witness.

What phrase came to mind, "God helps those who help themselves…"

If you are sitting and subconsciously waiting and wishing and hoping or manipulating your life for others to see you and your wound, you will remain a victim to life's circumstances.

If however, you stop waiting and looking for the response you need outside of yourself, but rather take the time and space to look and honor your self, you will find eternal peace about your abuse.

In writing this blog, I am acknowledging to me my wounds and I am airing them.  It feels good to know that I was wounded and I can be the most valuable witness.  For, even if others see you wounded, it will be all for naught, if you don't see and feel your hurt.

It is not the people who are at peace with their wounds that hurt others, nor are we racking up more negative life experiences…but those who are the walking wounded, blind to their own inner pain.

"Hurt people, hurt people."  Bill Cosby