I M Perfect lady

In Sarah Ban Breathnach's book, "Simple Abundance" she asks of us today, what brings Happiness for us?  

I heard Oprah once say that many people want to be happy, but when asked, what would make them happy, they are unsure.

So, what I wondered would make me happy and am I happy now or are there things and changes I needed to make?

I don't have any pressing unhappiness that I need to escape from or remove, so that is good.

I do know that my body feels at peace…like the energy or feelings inside of me are like calm waters, not choppy and upset.  I am not carrying lots of things that need my attention and I am avoiding.  Or situations that I have said yes to, that I needed to find the courage to change to a No.

I feel that I have been working on my happiness for a few years now and learning that if I am making choices based upon my feelings and not avoiding things, even if I am afraid of how it will affect others…I am creating an atmosphere of happiness for me.

I am thinking happiness isn't a thing, but rather a path of authenticity, where your choices create the space so that your self is comfortable.

I used to be the one who made others comfortable and Sarah even says, that often we know what makes others happy, but are not as clear when it comes to ourselves. I used to live 'unhappy' by saying yes when I should have said no…and I did a lot of things to please others.  I was a happy maker, but not so much for me.

Now, I am clearing my path of things that poke me and make me uncomfortable…

Often we don't want to bare the uncomfortableness that confronting the things that stand in the way of our happiness.  But, I have found, that a few moments or encounters with being uneasy, leads to wide open spaces of happiness.

So, I guess my things are not really things, but choices. Choices I have made to eliminate things that don't make me feel at peace.  Perhaps happiness for me is peace.