I M Perfect lady

I know there is a collective notion that I am bashing churches, that I have it out for my old church and others that believe in similar fashion, that I am hell bent on trashing these kind loving souls…that I am purposefully trying to wreck their reputations of being pious, humble and Godly…that my soul intent is to completely tear down their church faith and simple belief.

I am not.

I would easily grant them complete freedom to believe what they want, to pray to a God of their beliefs, and worship to their hearts content…but their practices and indoctrination stops reporting of child abuse.

It stops them from seeking outside help for sins committed.

It stops them from exposing…rather preaches hiding.  Once a sin has been forgiven it is not right to dredge it up….and you have no right to meddle in another's conscience; it is a sin to look and comment or spread another's sins.

The whole belief structure disables victims and the preachers they look to for guidance are ignorant of their liability in the face of knowing about a child in danger and NOT reporting.

Their ignorance of believing that a pedophile 'sins' and it is forgiven and forgotten…and somehow returned to just a dad, a member, a board member etc….how it is not right to 'judge' him, that is God's place.  

There are no treatments to cure this within the walls of that church.

There are no therapies offered to the victims. There is no shunning of the pedophile, but rather life returns to normal.  Where he is once again set free to 'sin no more'. 

However, they (members) know that we are weak and sinful and are not surprised to learn he can't abstain.

Some feel I am being particularly petty and relentless when it comes to these religions, but if they could see an overview of the cycles of abuse and how the rules/laws and beliefs of the church work in the favor of the pedophile, they would see I am not being relentless enough. 

While they hold on dearly to their 'precious' faith, they are blindly being players in the abusive game, but not ending it.

By not taking themselves out of the church community and seeking outside help and assistance to remove this man from their midst.

I know the teachings and the sentiments of these communities and how unwittingly they serve abusers.  I know the make-up of victims and how they were taught since they were children to mind their elders.  To forgive and forget.  To not speak unkindly about others etc.

Children are taught at a young age to please the elders and to fit in to a pattern reflective of the church.  They have given up the rights to their own bodies by allowing someone (church elders) to tell them what to wear, what not to wear, what to watch or not watch, what to read or not read, what to do with their hair or not do, they have been whittled into good submissive subjects that make easy victims.

Children who are obedient are easy to abuse.

Women are taught that the Man is the head of the household, she often is far from the center of balance, but just a step above the children. She has no voice within the family on matters of great concern, and she is unable and unwilling and unknowing how to step out of line and speak of things that are usually too shameful or too frightening to talk about….to close friends, let alone strangers on the outside.

Not only strangers, but unbelievers, sinners…the ones who she has been taught not to trust and has the fear of devil in them.

This is the conundrum I speak of.

The very good faithful are unwittingly being led to the slaughter of their own souls.

They will have to toss away their precious faith and eternity in Heaven to end abuse.

They will always choose their faith.

Meanwhile, the abuse flourishes unheeded.

Is there a way to expose abuse within the churches and save their precious faith?

Is there a way for children to be obedient and save themselves?

Is there a way a mother can be submissive and assertive?

Is it possible for the preachers to preach the power of forgiveness of sins and report the abusers and maintain their beliefs?

I can't know this.

It appears to me, that it is impossible to have both.

And, like I have said, their faith is the most precious thing to them. They will unwittingly allow their children to suffer abuse in order for them to gain heaven.

Unless and until they are willing to lay down their eternity in heaven, abuse will run freely within their hallowed walls of their church community…

How sacred is a place with pedophiles running free?

When they focus on their own faith, they are blind to the sins that fill their homes.

The self absorption of their souls eventually getting to heaven is the greatest hurdle we on the outside have to overcome.  They again are fearing Hell for eternity and are willingly allowing another child to suffer abuse.

When I spoke to my mother, my last time. Do you know, I was not allowed to address her religion. This was one of the places she was unwilling to go.  It was not an area open to discussion. Yet, this religion was one who held endless amounts of adults who knew and did nothing. This religion's minister knew and did not speak to the law. This religion groomed me to be obedient and fear God….

The very thing I was not allowed to tear down was the same thing that overlooked abuse.