I M Perfect lady

There seems to be a quest to ‘stand against’ abuse that is out there, in someone else’s life. It isn’t something you do in another person’s life, but in your own.
People ask what can their community do or what the church can do, when most abuse happens within families and with people YOU know.
Standing against abuse means standing up to folks you know who are behaving in ways that are harmful.
It is about no longer tolerating abusive behavior and or those who do.
You don’t have to go out into the community, you have work to do in each of your relationships.
How honest are you? What do you feel? How much do you pretend things are okay to get along. Ending tolerance for abuse, begins with you.
Between you and you.
How much integrity do bring to each relationship?
How often are you silent out of fear?
Fear is a sign, what is it saying?
Resentment is another sign, asking for you to see the imbalance or pain and it’s waiting for a new response from you, while you are waiting for that person to change. For them to see you. You need to see you and how you are falsely participating.
Abuse flourishes because we allow it…because we don’t change.
Many wait for the abusive person to change, when all it takes is for us to stop being with folks who are abusive.
We either allow abuse or we don’t, there is no middle space that requires nothing of us. You are participating by your lack of disengaging.
You are either engaged with the abuser and disengaged with your honesty or visa versa.
The phrase ‘gained the world but lost my savior’ comes to mind.
You can’t dance with abuse and your soul at the same time.
Your actions and movements are supporting only one agenda and it is up to you who you are with.
I marvel at not the strength of those doing the abuse, but of those who continue to be with them. Their lack of requirements…
You get what you settle for.