I M Perfect lady

January 2015

  • Write Your Fears!

    Today a cancer survivor emailed me asking me if I would be interested in  http://www.mesothelioma.com/heather/lungleavinday"   Her names is Heather Von St. James.  You can read more about her story at http://www.mesothelioma.com/heather/#.VMfJgGR4qFI What she has done annually on the First Saturday… Continue reading

  • Out of Reality

    David Hawkins writes about “Guilt”…in his book, “Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender.   “Ninety-nine percent of guilt has nothing whatsoever to do with reality. In fact, the most pious, meek, and harmless individuals are often riddled with guilt. Guilt… Continue reading

  • Cover Up the Predator.

    A very insightful article about family when it comes to one of their own being accused of sexual abuse.  In my experience what she writes is not uncommon.   http://www.alternet.org/gender/i-understand-why-people-believe-sexual-predators-rather-victims-i-did Not only is not uncommon, but it makes it extremely… Continue reading

  • I Understand Why People Believe Sexual Predators Rather than Victims—I Did | Alternet

    I Understand Why People Believe Sexual Predators Rather than Victims—I Did | Alternet. Continue reading

  • Worlds Apart.

    The two worlds existing side by each is so remarkable. And the inhabitants of each world speak two different languages and see things completely different. Not like a similar variation or just a bit down the spectrum…but completely different. Where… Continue reading

  • The two lives of you.

    I was listening to a fictional book, "All Fall Down" by Jennifer Weiner and she was writing about a woman who discovered her mother had been an alcoholic for the first time when she was in rehab. She had a… Continue reading

  • Separate Being

    "Codependents go numb by obsessing, controlling and denying."  Melody Beattie "Codependency is subtle, insidious. To recover from chemical dependency, we admit that we're powerless over alcohol. We realize we aren't controlling alcohol; it's controlling us.  Now alcohol was controlling me… Continue reading

  • Relationships will die.

    More about Boundaries….from Melody Beattie.  "It's not a boundary if we can't enforce it."  (Love this line!) AFTER SETTING BOUNDARIES PLAN ON: .being tested to see if we're serious, especially if previous boundaries were empty threats. .feeling "after burn" (guilty)… Continue reading

  • Say it out loud.

    Melody Beattie writes about boundaries in "The New Codependency". "Boundaries" When: .we're done saying "yes" when we mean "no"; .hurtful , disrespectful behavior must stop; . we're ready to say how we feel, whether people want to hear it or… Continue reading

  • Emotions the Facts bring with them.

    Again, from "Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender" by David Hawkins. "There is a simple way to become conscious of the underlying emotional goal behind any activity through the use of the question, "What for?"  With each answer, "What for?"… Continue reading