I M Perfect lady

June 2016

  • Unmet Needs

    The concept that unmet needs drive our worlds, and cause blindness to reality, is the most insightful.  It totally explains the dynamics of a dysfunctional home.  The core of word dysfunction really. Here is the deal.  In a dysfunctional home,… Continue reading

  • Waiting For

    While reading about trust, I found the piece of the puzzle that always puzzled me.   My passion and interest has been the complex nature of abuse and its generational clutches. How it seems this cycle is so damn hard… Continue reading

  • More from "Trust" by Iyanla Vanzant "MISMATCHES: EXPECTATIONS VERSUS CAPACITY" "When you are intimate with a person you have an opportunity to observe their actual capacities. When there is a mismatch between the expectations of one person and the capacity… Continue reading

  • More from "Trust" by Iyanla Vanzant "To Trust or Not To Trust" "It is impossible for people who are untrustworthy to become trustworthy simply because you want them to be that way. Trust is a matter of character. Some folks… Continue reading

  • Convinced Wrongly

    I wonder about the mass shootings and their correlation to our thoughts. In that, it is the mind who believes that there are superior colors, sex, nationality, sexual preferences, lifestyles, religions etc. We want to quickly ban guns; but nothing… Continue reading

  • Who You Are

    Every time I read a quote about waiting…that "your time is coming" or be patient and good things will come, I bristle. It is a maddening scheme to keep you from enjoying what you have. Or, at the very least,… Continue reading

  • Responses Matter to All

    Social Media is a buzz about Brock Turner; the Stanford Rapist and his lenient sentence AND his father's response. We all are responding. Some are sharing. Some are silent. Outraged. Sickened. What is not so shocking to me IS the… Continue reading

  • Feel the Same

    "Not the ones speaking the same language, but the ones sharing the same feeling understand each other."  Rumi   This is a huge clue to the silences I have in my world – we don't share the same feelings. I… Continue reading

  • Violent Silence

    Is there a nobel silent space to be; a place where our silence honors us both and it is not a punishing silence?  Is the broken communication a peaceful spot?  What causes the breaks in conversations?  Is it the breach… Continue reading

  • Punishing Silence?

    "Steps for Developing Self-Trust" in Iyanla Vanzant's book "Trust". Lesson #1: Standing in your truth. You must learn that you can stand in the face of judgment, criticism, correction or rejection without falling apart. Learning to trust yourself means that… Continue reading