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  • Skip It

    This is one of the first holidays I can remember – skipping – more or less.  I am cooking a dinner for my husband and myself; but there is not the houseful of family gathering this year.    In the… Continue reading

  • It’s called Artist

    Art as therapy is something that is an interesting adventure.  The piles of things I make often represent the outcome of channeling my anxiety or perhaps waylaying it.   Art in itself is odd. Being called an artist odder still.… Continue reading

  • It is a Holiday.

    Holidays look a lot like your relationship with your family. Those of us who are standing outside of our family of origin, we see the holidays as fractured.  The lineage is broken – and the extended parts no longer work.… Continue reading

  • Without the truths.

    I used to believe that we all knew what truth was and that some of us just chose to not live by it.   I now believe it is rare to be raised with truth as the core component in… Continue reading

  • Watered Down Relationships

    I just finished Kerry Washington's Memoir "Thicker than Water".  The main theme of the book is honesty – or perhaps the lack of it growing up.   In listening to her story, there were moments that helped explain me to… Continue reading

  • Circle of Women Relatives

    Ghosts from my past can walk up at anytime and say hello. They can ask how I am doing and then go for a swim. They can lay on the beach and read for hours near me.   It is… Continue reading

  • Perceive

    Almost 19 years later and I am still wrestling with things in my mind – trying to understand the things that can't be understood.  I am not sure if folks who were not abused look so deeply into life and… Continue reading

  • Our Legacy

    They say the best thing a father can do for his children –  is to love their mother.   My husband didn't have the easiest of roads.   He and I didn't know my past, and when it was revealed… Continue reading

  • Branch of the Family Tree

    Family has been on my mind lately.  Perhaps it is family reunions, family trips – and now Father's Day.   There are two opposing threads that are tangled in my mind. Family and Estrangement. They don't coexist together. Like water… Continue reading

  • Our Family Legacy.

      I didn't fully understand the trauma response, until I witnessed the opposite of it.   When I was a mother of young children, I didn't even have this language or the awareness that what I was doing had a… Continue reading