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  • Fearless Acceptance!

    I love how David Cowardin has let each of my quilts get their day in the Sun.  Today, it is "Fearless Acceptance".  Thanks Lola Visuals…you make us look good!    It is interesting that the Fearless Accepting…would appear to be… Continue reading

  • Handed off to my children.

    More from Step Four….Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families. "We avoid blame because we are aware of the generational nature of family dysfunction. Our parents passed on the seeds of shame and fear given to them. They were once children without… Continue reading

  • Let Him In

    "Step Three – Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understand God." Let Go. Let God.  "We do not believe our brains are missing any elements. We start with… Continue reading

  • Change the Pattern

      Step Two - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity…from the book, "Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families". "In one respect, Step Two implies that we had sanity and lost it when in reality… Continue reading

  • Loyal to the dysfunction.

    "Step One Summary" in Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families. "Step One requires that we admit that our family is dysfunctional and the dysfunction affects our thinking and behavior as adults. We must admit that we are powerless over the effects… Continue reading

  • Me from Them

    O Magazine asks 20 questions you should ask yourself…beginning with "Do I examine my life enough?" What a great start!  How often to you ask yourself questions about what you are doing and why?  How often are you willing to… Continue reading

  • Lie for Love.

    Martha Beck writes in O Magazine…. "It may seem that lying is easier than honesty – that it has the magical power to spare feelings and make us appear less flawed than we are.  But the truth is like fresh,… Continue reading

  • Is Not Love.

    Over the past years that I have been speaking out so frankly about my dysfunctional family and MY own dysfunction… and kindness has been challenged and used as a tool to ward off any action…of self awareness…self responsibility and self… Continue reading

  • Fell In Love.

                 "Adult Children of Alcoholics/dysfunctional families" "Finding Wholeness through Separation: The Paradox of Independence. The Identity, Purpose and Relationship Committee January 19 1986" "Separating" As we struggle to form an identity separate from our "parent"… Continue reading

  • Mitten Tree Ladies on Film!

    David Cowardin and Lola Visuals released another segment of my filming…that we had done for "Call Me Mental"…me explaining my lady and how she sees her family in mismatched mittens; where she doesn't belong on a family tree, but on… Continue reading