I M Perfect lady

Life’s Celebrations

  • His Daughter to Live hers Well.

    Dates on the calendar can stir up memories – a glimmer of significance to the day. My father would have turned 96 today – he’s been gone now 13 years – but he was gone for me long before that… Continue reading

  • Being Me

    December 4th is a date that I most likely will always remember – the day that reality slammed into me and changed my world forever. The day when a child spoke up that my father had sexually abused her. I… Continue reading

  • Consequences of the Choice

    “Cycles exist because they are excruciating to break. It takes an astronomical amount of pain and courage to disrupt a familiar pattern. Sometimes it seems easier to just keep running in the same familiar circles – than facing the possibility… Continue reading

  • May She rest in Peace.

    There is a humming in the backdrop of my life – a ghostly echo from the past. Most often nowadays, it is barely perceptible – and then voices come in. Words carrying the wishes, for the lack of a better… Continue reading

  • Play

    What if January was the month of acceptance.  The month we made an accounting of all that is – a month of looking deeply into who we are and why.   Often we want changes on the outside – to… Continue reading

  • Celebrate my Badassery.

    It is the eve of 19 years. Nineteen years of leaving behind the only life I had known to dare dream of changing the legacy I was born into.   This wasn't a dream of mine. The truth fell into… Continue reading

  • Branch of the Family Tree

    Family has been on my mind lately.  Perhaps it is family reunions, family trips – and now Father's Day.   There are two opposing threads that are tangled in my mind. Family and Estrangement. They don't coexist together. Like water… Continue reading

  • What you don’t know.

    Yesterday a woman who had great influence in my life turned 90.  I did not celebrate. This woman began programming me as a young child. Both in religious ways and codependent dysfunctional ways. She created the daughter she needed and… Continue reading

  • Sees her Child

    My annual correspondence arrives. "Have a birthday doing what is important to you.  I treasure the memories of your years with our family. You were a great help and I was proud of all you accomplished. I am your mother… Continue reading

  • I love you today.

    Today is also our 35th Wedding Anniversary.     I don't even know where to begin or how to encapsulate our 35 years. The girl I was when we met is so far from who I am today, and yet… Continue reading