I M Perfect lady

Tag: attitudes

  • What is inside of Us.

    There is an objective reality out there, but we view it through the spectacles of our beliefs, attitudes, and values.
    ~David G. Myers

    Isn’t it amazing that we all see a different world, a world that is colored by our spectacles, our rose colored lenses, the darkened glasses of beliefs, or the tint of values pressed upon us by religion, parents and society, how we literally can’t see the world objectively, for before we even arrive in a room our beliefs, attitudes and values make an entrance.

    The real world is changed right before our eyes within our beliefs.

    We don’t see the object, but rather our beliefs about the object.

    Today people wore purple to stop bullying, yet the bullies are wearing glasses that were put on them and until you can change the ideas behind the bullies, the bullies will continue acting with what they see in their minds.

    They are not seeing the person in front of them, but rather their beliefs being worn on that person.

    If a gay man walks in front of them, they do not see him at all, but rather all the things they were taught about him.

    The gay man in reality is covered up with beliefs, attitudes and values of the person seeing him, and none of it is true in reality.

    A coat he can’t escape, for he isn’t wearing it.

    How can he change what he isn’t?

    The glasses have the coat upon them.

    I seen the following on Margo Van Sluytman’s website.

    Sawbonna
    My soul sees your soul.
    And our shared dancing,
    Stretches to the very core
    Of all that is possible.
    All that is.

    Instead of wearing purple shirts, perhaps we can lose our glasses made of mirrors, mirrors of what is inside of us.

  • Loving What Is…

    We would rather be ruined than changed;
    We would rather die in our dread
    Than climb the cross of the moment
    And let our illusions die.
    ~W.H. Auden

     

    What is so unreal is that we believe we can stop change that it is up to us to keep things the same, and it is viewed worthy if we remain unchanged.

     

    Not only unchanged, but that if you change it is somehow seen as bad, wrong or that you succumbed to a new circumstance, instead of standing hard against change.

     

    I have come to see that change happens often and mostly for my benefit, and the more I get used to letting go of rigid beliefs about my life and how it is supposed to flow, I am much more relaxed and willing to bend with the next thing that changes.

     

    Our bodies change, the days change, the seasons change, our roles change, our attitudes change, our energies change, our feelings change, our world simply doesn’t stop changing.

     

    I think we can accept change as long as it goes according to our vision of our futures, but as soon as it changes and creates a kink in our plans, we then stand strong against that change.

     

    Standing against change feels stronger, yet it is actually a weakened state.  The strongest is to surrender and accept with grace whatever is happening, for it is happening.

     

    Accepting what is, as Byron Katie says…is really loving what is, and if you are not accepting it, you are fighting with reality and you only lose, but 100% of the time.

     

    I think we think we are good at navigating the changes in our lives, until the unthinkable happens, when we are forced to look upon something that certainly goes against our dreams, or our plans, and then see how you accept change?

     

    I have found that it is in accepting the most difficult things that we truly see ourselves; see where we truly are, how we are and how we are really living.

     

    Are we living in reality or in a dream about reality?

    Are we flowing with the Universe and living in a love hate relationship with it?

     

    Loving the Universe when our plans are going according to plan, and despising that same God, when things fall through?

     

    It has taken lots of disappointments, lots of changes, and lots of moments of utter disbelief to finally see the gifts in all the changes that have happened in my life.

     

    I was forced to look for gifts among the piles of changes and in doing so always found the thread that lead me to understanding the change.

     

    In seeing a bigger picture or seeing that which I failed to acknowledge, it was my perspective of change that was needed.

     

    Instead of sitting in the land of ‘expecting no change’, I now live knowing all life changes…I am comfortable with change, and if not, I know that it is my mind that has to be changed, not reality.

     

    Reality changes whether we agree or disagree…it is up to you how long it takes.

     

    I have found the quicker I change my mind, the more peaceful I am.

     

    Byron Katie says there are three little words that cause suffering…should, could and would.

     

    And there are three words that bring peace, Loving what is…