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Tag: Broken Open

  • Extra Ordinary

    Elizabeth Lesser writes, “A good guide tries to get his or her personality out of the way. An inexperienced or self-interested guide does not.  A good guide is always turning the focus away from himself and back on the student or client, always reducing the work at hand to its most simple, personal, and intimate dimensions. Good guides are not miracle workers.  If they suggest that have special powers to heal you – or if the people around them prop them up as magicians – I would think twice about working with such teachers, counselors or therapists.  Oftentimes the most effective guides are what I call extra-ordinary people.  They are extraordinary healers because they are profoundly ordinary people who are comfortable with their humanness.  They are extra-ordinary.

     

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  • Come Dance With Me!

    “Unceasing change turns the wheel of life, and so reality is shown in all its many forms.  Dwell peacefully as change itself liberates all suffering sentient beings and brings them great joy.”

              Buddhist sutra

     

    Dwell peacefully in change.  We are certainly not taught to embrace change, to actually expect change, instead it seems that we struggle to stop change, always.

     

    The seasons are switching outside, and the leaves are changing color, leaving the living world for the world of decay.  As winter is being born, fall is dying.

     

    “If we had the patience and a high-powered microscope, we could sit and stare at our hands and watch the river of change flowing through our own bodies right now.  We could watch our cells changing and dying and being replaced, over and over and over.  From year to year, every one of our cells is replaced.  Literally, who we were yesterday is not who we are today.  Our skin is new every month, our liver every six weeks. When we inhale, we breathe in elements from other organisms to create new cells, and when we exhale, we send parts ourselves out into the atmosphere – into the living, breathing universe.  “All of us,” writes Deepak Chopra, “are much more like a river than anything frozen in time and space.” (Broken Open)

     

    Imagine, we are not frozen in time, yet how often do we feel we must capture this moment, take prisoner this age, or hold tighter this stage, instead of holding the value of change.

     

    The value in change is that we have to enjoy what we have when we have it, to treasure each morsel as it fleetingly rushes by, yet open to the new rushing in.

    Never holding to tightly or failing to appreciate what is here right now, and knowing when to release.

     

    That is a talent that babies and perhaps dogs have.

     

    I am slowly but surely learning how to do this, how to be at peace with change, to fully enjoy the moment and then let it go away.

     

    To be in the flow of change, instead of trying to be the stopper of change, if that were even possible!

     

    I think the river of life rushes by you, as you are the stopper person, that life simply goes around while you are standing still, it refuses to comply with your stopping.

     

    We can sit down and hold on to fall in our minds, but winter will come in anyway, tossing snow and frigid temperatures in our faces never asking our permission.

     

    I read a poem that describes God in four words, “Come dance with Me!”

     

    Come dance with me as winter, come dance with me as fall, come dance with me as summer, as youth, as old age, in sickness and in health, we join God in all His wonderful disguises.

     

    Come dance with Me!

     

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    Not the God of Names,

    Nor the God of don’ts,

    Nor the God who ever does

    Anything weird,

    But the God who only knows four words

    And keeps repeating them, saying:

    “Come dance with Me.”

           Sufi poet Hafiz

     

     

  • ….your Birthday.

    “In the middle of the journey of our life I found myself within a dark woods Where the straight way was lost.”

            Dante Alighieri

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    I am reading Elizabeth Lesser’s book, “Broken Open.”

     

    The philosopher William James wrote that there are two kinds of people in this world – Once-Born and the Twice-Born.  Once-Born people do not stray away from the familiar territory of who they think they are and what they think is expected of them. If fate pushes them to the edge of Dante’s famous dark woods, -where straight way is lost- they turn back.  They don’t want to learn something new from life’s darker lessons.  They stay with what seems safe, and what is acceptable to their family and society.  They stick with what they already know but don’t necessarily want. Once-Born people may go through life and never even know what lies beyond the woods – or that there are woods at all.

     

    Perhaps Once-Born person awakens one morning and feels the beckoning finger of fate loosening disturbing questions: “Is this all there is to life? Will I always feel the same?  Do I not have some purpose to fulfill, some greater kindness to give, some inner freedom to taste?”  And then gets out of bed and dresses for work, and he doesn’t attend to the soul’s questions.  The next morning, and all the next mornings he lives as if the soul was a figment of a flighty imagination.  This inattention makes him confused, or numb, or sad, or angry.

     

    A Twice-Born person pays attention when the soul pokes its head through the clouds of a half-lived life.  Whether through choice or calamity, the Twice-Born person goes into the woods, loses the straight way, makes mistakes, suffers loss, and confronts that which needs to change within himself in order to live a more genuine and radiant life.

     

    But let’s be careful here.  Sweeping distinctions like Once-Born and Twice-Born are often misleading. They can make you feel like a failure if you perceive yourself as a stuck-in-the-mud Once-Born.  Or they can inflate the ego if you fancy yourself a White Knight, swashbuckling your way through the boring landscape of everyday life.  The journey into the woods of change and transformation is an inner one.  The outer story line need not be a soap opera, since the real drama is being carried out in the heart of the traveler. The most ordinary looking lives are often being lived by the most extraordinary spiritual warriors – Twice-Born people use difficult changes in their outer lives to make the harder changes within.  While Once-Born people avoid or deny or bitterly accept the unpredictable changes of real life, Twice-Born people us adversity for awakening.  Betrayal, illness, divorce, the demise of a dream, the loss of a job, the death of a loved one – all of those can function as initiations into deeper life.

     

    The journey from Once-Born to Twice-Born brings us to a crossroads where the old ways of doing things are no longer working but a better way lies somewhere at the far edge of the woods.  We are afraid to step into those woods but even more afraid to turn back.  To turn back is one kind of death; to go forward is another.  The first kind of death ends in ashes; the second leads toward rebirth.  For some of us, the day arrives when we step willingly into the woods.  A longing to wake up, to feel more alive, to feel something spurs us beyond our fear.  Some of us resist like hell until the forces of fate deliver a crisis.  Some of us get sick and tired of filling an inner emptiness with drugs or drink or food, and we turn and face our real hunger: our soul hunger.

     

    Twice-Born people trade the safety of the known for the power of the unknown.  Something calls them into the woods, where the straight path vanishes and there is no turning back, only going through.  This is not easy.  It is not a made-up fairy tale.  It is very real and very difficult. To face our shadow- the dragons and hags that we have spent a lifetime running away from – is perhaps the most difficult journey we will have to take.  But it is there, in the shadows, that we retrieve our hidden parts, learn our lessons, and give birth to the wise mature self.  From my personal experience, and from my work I have done with men and women in my workshops, I know that the difficulty of the dark journey is matched only by its rewards.  I also know that every single person in the whole world is offered- over and over- the chance to take the voyage from Once-Born innocence to Twice-Born wisdom.

    (end of quoting her book)

     

    It is my sister’s birthday, and my wish for her is to enter into the woods, to leave the beaten trail of being powerless, and step into the power of the unknown.

     

    Her courage stays only in the known, and boldly she walks in the meadows of our youth stomping down wild ideas the soul is whispering.

     

    Today sister may you hear the whispers, may you find the courage to heed the call, to walk bravely with all your courage into the woods and become Twice-Born on this day, your Birthday.