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childhood

  • Transference

    About Transference, by Alice Miller Tuesday October 14, 2008 “At the beginning of our lives we were, as very small children, totally dependent on our parents. And we believed, we HAD TO believe, that we were loved by them. Even… Continue reading

  • Production of Evil

    I am thinking Alice Miller may be one of my new favorite authors on Childhood and its affects as well as understanding why parents do what they do. Here is what she writes on the back of her book, “Banished… Continue reading

  • Theories as a Protective Shield

    “Theories as a Protective Shield” chapter 4, in Banished Knowledge by Alice Miller, she writes… “The feminist movement will forfeit none of its strength if it finally admits that mothers also abuse their children. Only the truth, even the most… Continue reading

  • Returns to being good.

    What a multifaceted catch 22 it is when society is asking that the children of abuse be the ones to stop it. To be the ones to name their perpetrator, to come out of their cages of captivity and walk… Continue reading

  • My Body, My mind and My Spirit.

    Something magical happens when you are forced, as in my case, to stand without secrets, to be bare unto the world, to have nothing hidden out of sight, when your worst fears and beyond are realized, you are exposed and… Continue reading

  • What you see and say.

    I am reading David Hawkins book “Reality, Spirituality and Modern Man” and here is something I found fascinating… “The mind automatically assumes that it is continuously aware of reality, and it is unaware that what it considers to be reality,… Continue reading

  • I see me

    “Tolerance is another word for indifference.” William Somerset Maugham I am not sure you can have tolerance unless you are indifferent. Indifferent – without care or interest: showing no care or concern for or interest in somebody or something. I… Continue reading

  • Normally intolerant of Abuse

    Addiction is an uncontrollable compulsion to repeat a behavior regardless of its negative consequences. The condition of being abnormally dependent on something…being abnormally tolerant to and dependent on. My brother brought to my attention that addiction is to be abnormally… Continue reading

  • Holistically I see me.

    I had images of myself yesterday, the woman I had become from being left untreated in abuse. How backwards I viewed life, myself and how I treated others was indicative coming from whence I came. Today while trying to write… Continue reading

  • Love without Hurt.

    What I didn’t know was that my distrust of kindness and love, was actually fear, that love to me was very wobbly and had lots of sharp edges and was ever changing, it was smooth and calm one minute, but… Continue reading