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  • Enjoying LIfe together

    Yesterday I spent creating two Mitten Tree Ladies…who are so full of, (as one woman put it,) exuberance.  I love the fabric and the feelings these ladies have.  Their spirits are imbued with self power. And working with sweater fabric… Continue reading

  • I Let Myself Go

    In "Codependent No More," by Melody Beatte, she writes about boundaries. ""Set boundaries, but make sure they're our boundaries. The things we are sick of, can't stand, and make threats about, may be clues to some boundaries that we need… Continue reading

  • Parents Call Family.

    I came across this paragraph in "Codependent No More" by Melody Beatte.  "Codependents are indirect. We don't say what mean, we don't mean what we say.  We don't do this on purpose. We do it because we've learned to communicate… Continue reading

  • The Grieving Process

    I am rereading Melody Beatte's book, "Codependent No More," and I am very surprised to see how she spends a lot of time on the grieving process. She writes, ‎"A codependent person or a chemically dependent person may be in… Continue reading

  • Grateful for being Detached

    "We cannot begin to work on ourselves, to live our own lives, feel our own feelings, and solve our own problems until we have DETACHED from the object of our obsession. From any experiences (and those of others), it appears… Continue reading

  • How can you lead your life if you follow?

    When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.   ~Victor Frankl   The more dramatic of a change you make, it shows just how far off base you were to begin with, and… Continue reading

  • Steering Our Own Canoes!

    One definition of codependency; Adult children of alcoholics; people in relationships with emotionally or mentally disturbed; people in relationships with chronically ill peoples; parents of children with behavior problems; people in relationships with irresponsible people; professionals – nurses, social workers… Continue reading

  • What I Mirrored.

    Continuing on from “Codependent No More” by Melody Beatte, she writes.   “Gradually, I began to climb out of my black abyss.  Along the way, I developed a passionate interest in the subject of codependency.  As a counselor (although I… Continue reading

  • Who I Used To Be

    I picked up the book, “Co-Dependent No More,” which was one of the first ‘self help’ books I read in the early days upon learning about my sexual abuse.   Here is what I read in the first few pages….… Continue reading

  • Who I Used To Be

    I picked up the book, “Co-Dependent No More,” which was one of the first ‘self help’ books I read in the early days upon learning about my sexual abuse.   Here is what I read in the first few pages….… Continue reading