In Deepak Chopra’s book, “The Ultimate Happiness Prescription, he writes;
”The roots of unhappiness are often invisible. This is especially true of the conditioning that creates toxicity in a person’s life. The most powerful conditioning exists at a subtle level of the mind. It begins in the first year of a child’s life, as the infant brain learns how to think, feel and behave from influences in the home. Conditioning becomes he dominant feature in all of us by the time we are toddlers.
This is when we set lifelong patterns into our brains. Even today you are replaying scenarios you learned when you were two or three. Consider a small child out with his mother. He sees a giant lollipop and wants one. What does he do? The most common pattern is the following: First he is nice, asking in a cajoling voice if Mommy will buy him a lollipop. If this tactic doesn’t work, he tries the opposite, acting nasty. He whines and cries and makes a scene. If this doesn’t work, the next step is to become stubborn and indifferent. He refuses to pay attention to his mother, who wants him to stop being unhappy and difficult. This is a subtler approach than nice or nasty. If stubbornness fails, the last scenario is to play the victim- poor me, no one loves me enough to buy me a lollipop. When the mother finally gives in, her child becomes conditioned, thinking he’s discovered something that ‘works’.
Simple as this emotional cycle might sound, millions of adults continue to act it out, using the same belief that their tactics “work” to get them what they want. The problem with this conditioning is that my manipulating others, you never really get what you want, which is greater love, peace and joy. Because conditioning trains the brain into a false sense of happiness, you are actually manipulating yourself. You become the kind of person who doesn’t know how to be anything other than nice, nasty, stubborn or a victim.
Conditioning is the subtlest form of toxicity. You cannot reach true happiness without escaping your mental conditioning. In our society there’s a wave of interest in leading a life that’s more natural, free of toxic substances. Purification of every type can be beneficial. But the secret to detoxifying your body lies more in the mind than anywhere else. There are seven steps to ridding yourself of toxin at the subtle level.
1. Take responsibility for your present response.
2. Witness what you are feeling.
3. Label your feelings.
4. Express what you feel.
5. Share what you feel.
6. Release the toxic feeling through a ritual
7. Celebrate the release and move on.
These seven steps apply whether you are trying to change a toxic emotion, habit, craving, or relationship, because your past conditioning lies at the heart of all of them.
Deepak
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