I am part of a group of women who are in the incubation stages of forming a place where women can meet and share their journeys. While its focus or its intentions is to help women travel their personal journey after abuse, it truly can be for any women who has something to share or needs a hearing ear and a helping hand.
Sometimes groups tend to be 'victim' groups, but I know that while I was part of a quilter's group, I found it helpful to see role models that encouraged me to find a voice and to utilize a wider variety of choices.
I see this women's group as being a two way street, where all are welcome…the abused and those who mentor us out of the darkness, we will teach each other the contrasts of life's journey.
I am in the group as a free spirit, not connected or affiliated with a group or agency, perhaps, unbeknownst to me….the first official member. For, behind my name is the experience of being abused, of living 40 years in denial…being without access to my personal voice, feelings or choices in my own life. A victim without knowing it.
I want to walk with others who are walking behind me. I hope my experiences will offer hope.
The other women in the group are different than, and yet they too are traveling their own personal journey as well as being in the profession of victim services. They have a wider view than I, and are seeing the victims from the outside. My view is inside out.
Together the combinations so far, are very different and extremely helpful, like many points of light…a lighthouse for women; we can see each situation from muliple views.
All women are welcome, for we need good role models and mentors as well as creative artful women, and those in need. We need victims in various stages on the journey of abuse, who can utilize and grow in our midst. A community of ladies, each bringing their unique journey to teach us about their path.
I want this group to be a place where all truths are honored.
Where it is a must to just be you.
We accept only originals.
I am excited that the seeds are planted….the beginning as begun. I do love that I am the first member…or at least I see me as such. For now, "The unoffical first member."
Ladies on a Journey! photograph by Hannah Jukuri
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