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  • Selfishly I Respectfully Do Not Care!

    “I respectfully do not care!” is a new quote I heard from Martha Beck as she spoke today on the Lisa Oz radio show.

    People have told her (Martha) that in order to promote and sell books and to keep her selling herself she needs to be on facebook, twitter and the like, but doing so has made her sick, physically sick with shingles.

    She found that she can talk with her daughter, and if her daughter feels her mom says something profound, her daughter will post it online.

    Martha has total trust in her body and she was getting physically sick doing what others wanted her to do, but what wasn’t natural or feeling right for her.

    When she says, “I respectfully do not care,” it means I respect what you are saying, it’s not for me.

    I love that.

    She is following and listening to her body.

    This may be my second favorite quote from her and it validates that you heard the request, but don’t care.

    Don’t care if all are doing this, me and my body are not okay with it,

    “I respectfully do not care” almost sounds like what I tell my children. I respectfully do not care if all the kids are doing it you are not. (when the other kids parents didn’t care and we had different rules.)

    This phrase actually gives you the freedom to be an individual, to follow the signals of your body, to listen to the inner knowing, to care more about yourself than others.

    Selfishly I respectfully do not care!

  • Respect Your Self First.

    During yoga today I wondered about the difference between self-respect and the respect of others.  So I went ahead and looked up the meanings.

     

    Self-Respect.

    proper respect for oneself and one's worth as a person.

     

    Respect.

    1.   esteem: a feeling or attitude of admiration and deference toward somebody or something.     

     

    I had to look up the word ‘deference’ and here is what I found.

     

    noun. Submission or courteous yielding to the opinion, wishes, or judgment of another. Courteous respect. See synonyms at honor.

     

    Correct me if I am wrong, but is this meaning of Respect saying that I am to yield to their opinion and wishes when they are different than mine?

     

    That to hand out respect is to be dismissive to my own feelings and experience?

     

    This seems like a fancy word for lying.

     

    It seems counterintuitive to my own sense of self-respect to yield submissively in a courteous way to allow their opinions and judgments to trump mine.

     

    I practiced this type of respect for 46 years, being courteous to my parents, being submissive and yielding to them,  while it eroded away my own self worth and respect.

     

    I no longer wish to play the game respect, to honor the other when there is nothing there to honor.

     

    My own sense of self-respect is the freedom to no longer be submissive, courteous and yielding to another’s wishes, but instead be free honoring who they really are.

     

    I am very pleased that I no longer respect another’s wishes above mine.

     

    This meaning of respect leaves you powerless and without worth.  So, if you want self-respect, respect your self first!

     

    “Self-respect cannot be hunted.  It cannot be purchased.  It is never for sale.  It cannot be fabricated out of public relations.  It comes to us when we are alone, in quiet moments, in quiet places, when we suddenly realize that, knowing the good, we have done it; knowing the beautiful, we have served it; knowing the truth we have spoken it.”   

                Whitney Griswold  

        

     

  • Respect Doesn’t Arise.

    If someone told you to respect someone how do you go about doing that?  That even if you don’t love him, he deserves respect. 

     

    I sat there and felt those words in confusion.

     

    It seems I typically respect those I love and I am not sure what I do with the rest.  I have no stressful thoughts of them, just space. 

     

    I don’t believe I disrespect them, but I guess I just allow them to be and inside there is a space where respect and love feelings would be, a vacancy.

     

    So how would I make respect inside of me?

    Is this possible to conjure it up?

     

    And what is wrong if I stand there empty of respect for someone? 

     

    Why is it that I am frowned upon for not finding respect inside of me for him?  Am I malfunctioning?

     

    When I sat with this awhile, I know that the absence of respect fits perfectly with the absence of actions that would ignite respect.

     

    Without an action, a gesture, something deserving of respect, respect doesn’t arise.

     

    Any emotion, if it is sincere, is involuntary.  ~Mark Twain