There are two small words that I feel are crucial to every relationship and most important to the one between you and you, and they are Yes and No.
If you haven’t found the inner power to use these words freely, than you are at risk of being abused or most likely have been.
I think back on the terrible twos my kids went through, and mostly what they were doing was activating their power to use these words and most parents are not happy about this, this opposing powerhouse in a tiny body.
I do believe that we come with the natural ability to say yes and say no, to speak of our feelings, but during our ‘upbringing’ they are slowly eroded away.
We are much easier to handle without this freedom.
In fact I believe my childhood religion thrived on stealing away most of my power, which was the perfect partner for abuse, I had been removed of my tools to fight the enemy.
When I see very submissive children being so obedient, I shudder now, for I see them being helpless and easy targets.
My children came with much self -knowledge and I wasn’t able to remove all of it and it is unimaginable what we call raising; for it seems it is more like erasing.
Erasing their natural abilities to survive in this world.
I had mentioned to my brother that we would have been better off being raised by wolves, he laughed but then agreed.
I would raise my children completely different if I had the chance, and perhaps I have been able to reset their buttons in the past six years as I reset my own.
In fact I believe if we all sat back and followed a child, we could relearn how to be a full and happy adult.
Who we grow up to be begins in childhood, and in order to change who we are now, we have to head back and see what rules we were taught and what things inside of us were squelched due to the fear of reprisals from our parents and or church.
We have to learn how to say yes and for stand solid in the word no, become a stubborn two- year old!
We need to reclaim our freedom that was stolen in our terrible twos!
I love that we can begin to act like a two- year old and find our power, but how cool, we are two- year olds who are the head of the house and can drive…I say No parents allowed!
It is time we reclaim our lives, our yes and our no.
I am not sure, but I feel depression is when we lose the power inside, when we are stuck powerless, without a choice. And brainwashing has to be removing the flexibility to say yes or no that is against what the other wants.
They brainwash away the free will to say yes or say no…
These two little words and your freedom to use them will set your free and you will begin to see life as a child full of wonder and delight, for you have the power to steer clear of what you don’t like.
There is nothing like the power of a good NO.
Again, as Bryon Katie says, “Saying no to you is a yes to me!”
I M Perfect lady 