I M Perfect lady

When I thought more about being silent/anonymous out of fear…it is more like being afraid to talk, and not afraid to be silent.  

They are actually safer in the silence than they would be speaking up. It is self protection to remain quiet.  And are only quiet about 'certain' issues.  We all know which topics are non-negotiable.  In each family and in the FALC, we know the cost of stepping out of bounds, and we know in abusive families, silence is what keeps the family together. 

 We can debate about silence and its merits…but I am talking about a group, of what I call, repressed individuals. People who have been raised not to have free access to their minds, their actions and certainly not to be able to freely express ideas that oppose the Church and family.  

Just being born into the FALC…without ever living outside of its doctrine, has you at a disadvantage.  You are taught to be subordinate; less than.  And controlled by using the Fear of God's wrath and Hell. You are submissive out of fear.  Just as I believe they are now silent out of fear…but this time the fear from the inside or the fear of how their families will react.

It seems fear is and has been a companion all along.  Fear of God and Hell….to fear of shunning.  And you will pay a price to speak out about family abuse as well.

Again, we can focus on the silence and dismiss the fear.  But, I feel fear is the key component that keeps victims silent.  

I know for fact, that there are people out there who will not even dare comment on my blog…or press "Like" on facebook…to be associated with me, like I am the devil incarnated for speaking up…and if they did, it would mean they too may hold similar views.  And they are not willing or able or ready to fully say how they feel etc.

I am doing their greatest nightmare…using my name and telling it like it is.  I am also living the consequences they fear. Being an outsider in the family.  This the fear that keeps them silent. They are not silent for any other reason, it isn't pride or out of love…Love doesn't require silence.