I M Perfect lady

One factor in abuse, is that many are taught the wrong definition of "Unconditional" love.  Here is what Mark Nepo says about that.

"Unconditional love is not so much about how we receive and endure each other, as it is about the deep vow to never, under any condition, stop bringing the flawed truth of who we are to each other."

"Much is said about unconditional love today, and I fear that it has been misconstrued as an extreme form of “turning the other cheek,” which to anyone who has been abused is not good advice. However, this exaggerated passivity is quite different from the unimpeded flow of love that carries who we are."

"In truth, unconditional love does not require a passive acceptance of whatever happens in the name of love. Rather, in the real spaces of our daily relationships, it means maintaining a commitment that no condition will keep us from bringing all of who we are to each other honestly."

"For example, on any given day, I might be preoccupied with my own needs, and might overlook or bruise what you need and hurt you. But then you tell me and show me your hurt, and I feel bad, and you accept that sometimes I go blind to those around me. But we look deeply on each other, and you accept my flaws, but not my behavior, and I am grateful for the chance to work on myself. Somehow, it all brings us closer."

"Unconditional love is not the hole in us that receives the dirt, but the sun within that never stops shining."  Mark Nepo "The Book of Awakening"

The FALC, preaches "forgiveness of sins" in a way that is strikingly similar to the messed up unconditional love Mark speaks of.  The reason that sexual and physical abuse is so prevalent in the church is that the women and children (or the abused) are taught it isn't loving to have conditons.  

What seems insanity is what they call loving forgiveness.

They are taught, there is no sin too great to forgive. You are to grow your love to encompass all madness and abusive behavior. The bigger the mess the more you have to expand your love to enfold it.  And if you can't, you are weak of faith.

You are not loving enough, good enough, trying hard enough….etc.  NOT, that the EVIL is evil and you can't be loving enough to change it. 

Women who are taught to be loving and kind to evil is how evil gets passed on.

Teaching women who have had no boundaries to start standing up is very risky as well, but I can feel the restlessness and when one makes it out, others will follow.

Tom Rosemurgy and Dial Help are two places where these women can go…

I see the overview of the church as an incredible nest of evil and those who were taught to tolerate and love it.

The sheer volume of women and children who allow and agree to being treated poorly in the name of love and Jesus is mind blowing at best.  Who in their right mind would believe that Jesus would bless this evil?

Mind controlling love is the only way this evil will survive.  

I am hopeful, that there has been a leak in the system. That the new generation of women are stirring, that they are bolder, stronger and will not lie down in god's peace…but will rise and fight for themselves and their children.

The way sexual abuse and evil have been protected in the FALC, makes me shudder and grow cold.  The complete opposite of what many believe…the church to be.  There  is no peace of God in there.  None. It is the play ground of the devil…where love is stolen to support evil.

I feel the foundations are beginning to crumble…we are no longer silent about the treatment…and more importantly, the forgiveness of sins is failing miserably.

It is taught, that you can't get to heaven until you have your sins forgiven….what they really are teaching, is that evil needs to be forgiven.  Evil needs to be washed clean, time and time again…and it needs the women and children to do this.

I feel the women are tired.  The pain has had its toll. The inner stirrings are growing stronger than the 'faith' in unconditional love. 

I am hopeful, that one by one the numbers will grow and expand.  It will be a split like this church has never seen.  This time they will be leaving, not to find a new religion, but to end to abuse.

Women will be leaving hell holes of god's peace…into the Grace of Truth.

(I use a small g in god's peace…for this is the private hand shake among the FALC, and I feel there is no peace of God in that church.  Not in the evil doers, nor in the ones who suffer beneath them.)