I M Perfect lady

"We owe the truth, not just the facts. I’m celebrating my 84th year on this planet. I’ve seen many things. I’ve learned many things. I’ve certainly been exposed to many things and I’ve learned something: I owe it to you, to tell you."        Maya Angelou

When do we owe it to the other person to tell the truth?  Does this change from person to person? Are some more worthy than others?  Does it depend upon the relationship?  Who decides when you give up all your truth or just a portion?

I love the sentiment that I owe it to you.  That it is up to me to give you all of me…and that it is my responsibility, not yours.  Our relationship's value depends upon how much I give…or how much I withhold.

Martha Beck writes about truth in her book, "Finding Your Way in a Wild New World."

"One of the most consistent themes among all human wisdom traditions is the teaching "The truth shall set you free."  But Westerners tend to believe that the truth is a mental or verbal story, a set of facts laid out in words. Eastern wayfinders and many other indigenous cultures, on the other hand, go to great lengths reminding students that "the finger that points to the moon is not the moon," that words are merely the vehicle to carry us toward the experience of truth. The words themselves are not truth. They are the product of a dualistic mind-set that's necessary for language but meaningless in the nondualist Everywhen. Truth itself is something you live, not something you think." 

I totally get this.  The truth cannot be hidden or changed or erased with words, but that words no matter how sweetly spoken are nothing compared to movement…truth flows from how we live, not what we say.

Truth is something we live, not what we think.  It isn't a thought in your head that can be changed and manipulated.

In my old religion, the tactic of the forgiveness of sins, was to change the thoughts in your head, but it had zero impact on the truth…No amount of forgiveness (words) will change what has happened, ever…no matter how strongly you believe and have faith, nothing can un-ring a bell or undo what has been done.

Martha Beck's definition of forgiveness is, giving up all hope that the past could have been any different.  This is what I have faith in…accepting what is. It now seems incredibly mental, but not in a way of being mentally challenged, but that the FALC was built upon and stands upon the very thing that is impossible to do; changing reality.

They depend upon this like it is their life blood, their path to heaven is paved with the sentiment of forgiveness of sins.  Funny, they never try and erase or delete happy loving movements, only the ones that are not kind and hurtful.

The juxtaposition between my old definition of forgiveness, wiping away movement, actions and words, and my new one, "Giving up all hope of changing the past"….leave me in a world where I am at peace, no matter what happens.  For what happens is living truth.

"No matter how difficult and painful it may be, nothing sounds as good to the soul as the truth."  Martha Beck