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"'No' can be a beautiful word, every bit as beautiful as 'yes', "writers John Robbins and Ann Mortifee declare. "Whenever we deny our need to say 'no', our self-respect diminishes," they tell us in In Search of Balance Discoverying Harmony in a Changing World. "It is not only our right at certain times to say 'no'; it is our deepest responsibility. For it is a gift to ourselves when say 'not' to those old habits that dissipate our energy, 'no' to what robs us of our inner joy, 'no' to what distracts us from our purpose. And it is a gift to others to say 'no' when their expectations do not ring true for us, for in doing so we free them to discover more fully the truth of their own path. Saying 'no' can be liberating when it expresses our commitment to take a stand for what we believe we truly need."  (from Simple Abundance, by Sarah Ban Breathnach

No is one word that has gotten a bad rap, it is covered with negative feelings, when in fact it is the gateway to freedom.

I love that I can say no.  I love that I can signify no. I love that I use No.

No is the word that is taken from us in abuse.

No was also removed in Religion, where choices were sliced away.

As Byron Katie says, "If you can't say NO, I don't trust your YES."

I am not sure if you can maintain your own boundaries without the use of the word No. In fact, I would say it is impossible.  

By removing a child's ability to say No, we are setting them up to live without boundaries. The greatest gift we can give our children is the ability to say no, especially to us.  Relationships without No, are not healthy.

I honor the word No much more than the word Yes. Yes is typically used for something you like and is joyful and easy.

No is a word that may come out shaky and filled with anxiety…as we begin to reclaim our lives and our choices.

No is a word that signifies a choice.

It means 'no thank you'…I pass.

I will sit this one out.

No is a word of power of empowerment…a vote for what you believe in, what you stand for or stand against.

Without No, a Yes isn't so positive, but just a way to keep from kicking up dust or making a fuss.  Yes is easy it requires no self control or power.  It goes along to get along. It is to stay with the crowd and not stand out.  It is the weakest of the two words…and the path most traveled.

Once No is an option…you are able to discern your preference.

Without a preference you are held prisoner to another's wishes/dreams or commands.

Imagine No is a way out of old habits…cults, abuse, bad relationships, etc.

The ability to say yes OR no, is freedom.

And, if you don't have the power to use No, you will not understand those who can and will feel their No affects you.

Once you use No liberally, you will allow others to do so as well.  It separates and unhooks you from others.  You become a free unit.

No has been my greatest gift to me.

I do not trust anyone who can't say No.

A person without the capabilities to say no, appear foggy to me; unclear.

Definition is decided with No…and Yes….but not with just yes.

Always saying yes, means you don't know who you are.