I M Perfect lady

The sentiment about estrangement, is often misread. It is believed, that we leave our families for a worse life. That we are choosing to live a life of pain and suffering, loneliness and grief. And, that there is no way life can rebound into something Better than being with family.

Mostly, it is hard for many to wrap their minds around the idea that life being estranged IS better than life with family.

What many fail to acknowledge is who we are leaving.

Or, what we are giving up.

And, even more, what we are gaining.

 

Estrangement is complex, and typically happens when adult children recognize the toxicity of their childhoods.

We are choosing love over hurt.

We are not asking them to change, we are changing our lives.

 

I did not leave a loving environment.

I am not going from peace to into hell.

I am not leaving the light for the dark.

 

Estrangement is seen as being a negative.

However, in my experience it has been positive.

 

How can it not be?

 

Not only for myself, but also for the generations behind me.

 

It is up to each of us to decide what our legacy will be, how we live our lives, what our relationships will hold and how we live out our own truths.

There is a direct correlation between choice and outcome.

I love the laws of the universe, they will not be fooled.

 

It is a drastic measure to leave family relationships behind.  That is the cost sometimes needed in order to feel love.

Love of self.

And, without that, you truly can't love anyone else.

 

My landscape of estrangement is love.

 

"How is that working for you", was a question thrown at me in derision by my brother.

His view of my life is so completely different, than mine.

His view of me, is not my view of me.

Estrangement can be seen in two different ways, depending upon where you stand.

 

It is working for me in countless healthy ways.

Love, and being able to love, is the most remarkable.

 

Estrangement often is the cost for love.

How can you quantify that?

To live among family without love, would not be living at all.

 

And, to live with love so bright, it often hurts my eyes.

I love love.

I love that I can feel it deep in my cells for me.

And, for those I love.

I love that my love allows others to be free.

 

Yes, estrangement is working well for me. I love its peace and its joy.  I love knowing that I can do hard stuff, that I have the courage to stand up for what is true for me. 

I love that I can see my brother looking at me derision and even hate.

I see him disproving of my life and me.

It makes complete sense standing where we are standing.

Loving what is.

Estrangement is beautiful.

My life is completely different than when I was part of the family. 

I am completely different than when I was in my family circle.

And, who I am today, is light years from whence I came.

I love who I am, and I love my life.

Estrangement is loving yourself enough to leave.