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  • Alice Miller, again. I love her fearlessness.

    Chapter 4 in Banished Knowledge by Alice Miller titled “Why I Reject Psychoanalysis Also as a Therapy Method.” “Following my interview for the April 1987 issue of the German Journal Psychologie heute (Psychology Today), in which I declared my break… Continue reading

  • Our Abusive Parents Loved Us.

    Tinogona, It is Achievable! Tererai Trent Sometimes it is hard to grasp the how or to figure out the way, but all that is needed is the faith in that it can happen. Surrendering the details up to the Universe… Continue reading

  • Transference

    About Transference, by Alice Miller Tuesday October 14, 2008 “At the beginning of our lives we were, as very small children, totally dependent on our parents. And we believed, we HAD TO believe, that we were loved by them. Even… Continue reading

  • Theories as a Protective Shield

    “Theories as a Protective Shield” chapter 4, in Banished Knowledge by Alice Miller, she writes… “The feminist movement will forfeit none of its strength if it finally admits that mothers also abuse their children. Only the truth, even the most… Continue reading

  • Unable to Heal.

    Here is another part of Alice Miller’s book “Banished Knowledge”…again from the chapter, Wicked Child. “Reactions to new insights reflect not only training but also the tragedy of unequaled chances: A loved child receives the gift of love and with… Continue reading

  • Our Own Mother Lode.

    In Alice Miller’s book, Banished Knowledge, the chapter, called ‘the wicked child’ is the following. “In Thou Shalt Not be Aware, I have demonstrated how precisely Freud’s “drive” theory and Melanie Klein’s theory of the cruel infant coincide with the… Continue reading

  • What my mind can hold.

    Glancing through the book “Truth vs Falsehood” by David Hawkins, I read this headline, “Cultism”…so here it is. “Cults ensnare the unwary by their specialness and false promises. Members have ‘insider’ status and a special ‘lingo’. The group leader is… Continue reading

  • Returns to being good.

    What a multifaceted catch 22 it is when society is asking that the children of abuse be the ones to stop it. To be the ones to name their perpetrator, to come out of their cages of captivity and walk… Continue reading

  • My Body, My mind and My Spirit.

    Something magical happens when you are forced, as in my case, to stand without secrets, to be bare unto the world, to have nothing hidden out of sight, when your worst fears and beyond are realized, you are exposed and… Continue reading

  • The Shame Lives when we hide it…bravery is born when we don’t!

    We can’t know the obstacle courses another person is navigating in their lives, what sorts of soul wrenching choices they are making, what tricky waters they are navigating by how they present themselves daily, for most often we are taught… Continue reading