What I find so intriguing in having a discussion with half the folks hiding behind a curtain called anonymous is that you feel so brave in calling what we do vindictive or petty or airing our dirty laundry, when you can’t even tell us who you are
Why are you demeaning us for being so open?
When did it become better to hide our truths?
Or do you only want us to hide dirty things that were done to us?
When we hide what was done to us, we take on shame.
When we expose what was done to us, we become free of shame.
When I accept what I did, I no longer have the need to hide.
There is something really wrong about you hiding and yelling at us for being out in the open.
My brother clued me into why I may be a little gun shy around folks who hide their ‘real identity’, my father hid his from me and my mother hid hers from me.
I had them pictured much different than how they turned out to be. And even my siblings. We think we know how others will act, but you can’t know until tried and tested.
In fact one of the comments on the comment section of the http://extoots.blogspot.com/ blog said “No offense to anyone, just not a church issue to me although if still happening today I know I could count on my fellow brothers and sisters in faith without a doubt!”
How can ‘anonymous’ be so sure. Has she ever brought to them that she has been abuse by someone in the church or perhaps family? That is an untried assumption, without a leg to stand upon.
And since when is abuse not a church issue? If the church members are being abused, it is an issue in the church. And how you all deal with it should be brought up.
That is like saying; abuse is not a family issue.
Here is another thing I want you all to know…
What I thought I knew about my family and who they actually were were miles apart. I was so far off base; in the end my family of 15 shrunk down to one. One brother and I see this eye to eye. The rest had a different response and it wasn’t my back they covered, but my fathers and mothers.
You all presume everyone will take the side of a victim, but I am here to tell you it isn’t so.
It seems to me that lots of the anonymous people are making assumptions.
Assumptions about others…
Assuming they are going to act a certain way when until you are there in real life, you have no clue.
Or assuming why others are acting a certain way and assuming this without asking the source for the real reasons.
And at the same time the anonymous are assuming, we the ones saying our names are Telling you how it really is, and you are not believing us.
Isn’t it just insane?
Anonymous people assuming.
Named people not assuming but saying what it is.
And who are most FALC people believing?
They seem to have faith in assumptions and anonymous people.
And disbelief for the ones with experience.
Yet we are treading on delicate surface here, we are making ripples in the calm waters of what you know to be true in your life so far. And what we are asking of you is to take our experiences and learn from them.
And what I know for sure is some will and others will need to walk my walk in order to believe.
It matters not to me who believes and who doesn’t believe that there are pedophiles within your church. My children are no longer there and my grandchildren most like will not arrive there. For me, my immediate suffering within the walls of the FALC are over.
I am saying this to spare you my long walk…but that will be strictly up to you. How you accept my words is not my responsibility, it is yours.
You can hear what you want to hear and disregard the rest…you and you alone control your ears.
I M Perfect lady 