The question, “What would you do if you didn’t have to worry about doing it perfectly”, got me to thinking of all the things I have done, and how many I didn't do perfectly.
How it is insane to ever believe that your first attempt will yield perfect results, it is only a select lucky folks who happen on a hole in one, the first time out.
Before I could even list the things I would do, I thought of all the things I have done without knowing how or being able to do them perfectly and yet they have given me great returns.
Number one, being a mom. There is no training for this, you get a baby and you’re a mom. And you get to perfect your ways through repetitive actions…and by the time you understand the baby years, they are into being toddlers…it is a learning process one that has you always starting out as a beginner.
Being a wife is the same. You get married and you’re a wife, no place to practice this and when you become ‘perfect’ seek a spouse…it works in reverse. Only trial and error makes it perfect. And as with children, it is always in process of growing and as your life changes, the way you are a wife changes as with age etc. There is no such thing as perfecting the wife skills.
I then wrote about quilting and being an Art quilter. You can’t begin after you become a perfect quilter… you just do it and the more you do, the closer to perfect you become. But the horizon keeps moving back, new techniques and ideas come in and you once again begin a beginner and not perfect.
What I loved about the question was how I was able to look backward in my life and all that I have done and how incredible it was that most of it was not perfect and I survived and even thrived in many places.
I didn’t get the chance to learn how to perfectly leave a family before I left or did I have a class on how to be a perfect abused child, to perfectly speak my truth, or how to exit a cult… I just did it. Perfect didn’t matter. I became better by doing. I am not sure there is another way.
Imagine all you have done without being perfect and just imagine how much more you can do by allowing yourself to be a beginner!
I love this we need to replace the goal of being perfect with being comfortable as a Beginner. At least is shows we are begining something, we are attempting we are moving, growing and changing. If you are not beginning something new, you have stopped living.
I love being a beginner!
I M Perfect lady 