“Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.” ~Theodore N. Vail
When you face what you actually are compared to what you desire to be, you will find much peace, it is trying to be someone else that’s impossible.
Letting go of the potential, the prize of someday, the if only of yesterday, and the idealized version of self that is the hardest to do.
To sit down fully in imperfection and disappointing the mind, by facing all the evidence contrary to many beliefs.
What I felt most for the men on stage with Oprah was that they were unable to claim their lost innocence and how abuse changed them.
They wanted what is impossible to attain, and in doing so sit in denial of whom they are.
They are the combination of innocence lost and the affects of abuse, and when they can see the imperfections of their lives, they will see how perfectly it is.
How abuse does steal innocence, how if you don’t address abuse, abuse lives its life for you.
It seems that you are a victim when you repeatedly succumb to the wishes of if only, or I can’t be different, and you become a victor when you stand and state the obvious.
I was abused.
I am confused because of the abuse.
I lived an upside down life due to being abused.
Until we can recognize how upside down we are, we can’t seek to right ourselves.
By holding on to the picture of innocence, we miss who we now are.
I will never not know the feelings of terror of a father.
I will never not know who I would be without the abuse, but I can know who I can be in spite of it.
There is a life after abuse, a way to reclaim your life today, but not undo yesterday.
Life after abuse starts when you out yourself.
Until then, you are locked in the dark with the secret.
Once you step out, your life after abuse can begin…Abuse and its shame lives in the dark quiet silence.
You don’t have to tell the whole world, but speak to someone, open the wound and let the pain out.
I M Perfect lady 