What would be good advice to offer a new couple who just got married, what pitfalls or blind corners do you have to warn them of, when does reality overtake love, and what then is the best thing to do?
In my experience of 23 years I would have to say, is to be truthful with your self first and then with him/her.
That if you give away parts of your self in little lies, soon the you they fell in love with will be gone.
And it is in the most scariest of situations where there is the most at stake, it is then you need to be honestly truthful.
By honoring your self first, the other person will always be with your most authentic self.
While it may seem kind to bow down to the comfort or spare a feeling of hurt, what you are really doing is lining your relationship with lies.
I had heard Dr. Phil say yesterday to different couples who were either too comfortable (no spice) or those in a power struggle of control, etc…that you are either contaminating the relationship or adding to its strength (I forgot what word he used, but meaning adding to its integrity).
In each situation, all you are responsible is for your self.
The union of two people will be only as strong as the weakest individual.
A marriage made in heaven is where one is strong the other is weak and visa versa.
If we were exactly alike, there would be no need for the other.
Celebrate your differences!
I M Perfect lady 