If you held a woman’s vagina sacred, if you held a woman sacred, you couldn’t murder her or rape her or mutilate her or hurt her. Eve Ensler
I just listened to the Vagina Monologues.
What an incredible and insightful look at the one body part that has been used and abused to take our spirits and how sad most often it occurs in young childhood, before we even know it intimately ourselves.
The heart of a woman, the place where we can experience and express the wild nature of women, is captured and raped before we even connect, stolen before we find our own worth.
Eve Ensler opens the dialogue in how detached and unowning we are to our own body parts after they are misused.
We walk away from the wound too.
We treat ourselves as others treated us, without care or feeling, we turn ourselves off.
In one part she mentions a group of young girls who just returned from Rape Camp and how they lined up with their mothers to have a picture taken, and not one of the girls looked at the camera, all heads down in shame.
Looking down in shame for being raped.
It is how they see themselves now, through the eyes of their abused vagina.
Their sense of being a woman has completely changed by the treatment their vaginas received.
The treatment they received is now the ruler of self worth.
What a journey into regaining your power back, to hold yourself worthy, to find the specialness, to feel again after the most sensitive and sensual part has been brutally treated.
By looking at abuse from the body part which abuse occurred is to see the difference between a sacred and loved vagina to one who has been ravaged by abuse.
Again, the saddest part to me is that very young girls are being abused before they even know what it is, how it works, that it is sacred, that it is an expression of love, a tool for pleasure not pain, and they are driven away from the most intimate part of themselves.
This disconnect creates frozen or careless owners, where they are ‘ice maidens’ or floozies. The swing from one pole to the next shows how out of control of their bodies they are.
Learning to love and hold sacred our own bodies is a huge part of the healing process, to reclaim them from the abusers, redefining them once again, returning them back to their innocence.
Because it is such an intimate part of ourselves, when abused, we lose our sense of intimacy, a personal loving relationship with self.
This loss of self intimacy is our greatest loss…we lose reverence and sacredness of self, we lose our own self love.
I M Perfect lady 