I M Perfect lady

What a great visual for co-dependency to see a person peddling a bike pulling a trailer with someone sharing the seat, but dragging their feet, a third person giving orders as where and when to stop.

The life of a people pleaser perfectly depicted.

While I have been working on removing the trailer and kicking off the people, they are finding it difficult to know how to walk or manage their own lives, that life isn’t done by telling someone else to get you there.

They have a right to be mad when I suddenly decide to ride solo, to unhitch their lives.

My son has been riding on and off, there are many things he does without my assistance, however, I have also let him ride longer than necessary for simple things.

They are little things, little boy things that he now as a young man can take over; it is time for him and I to let the little boy go.

As a mother you have to know when to get rid of the wagon.

Some worry about the empty nest, I worry about a full wagon.

Resentment grows when you allow them to ride longer than needed, when you get used to doing for them, and forget to allow them to do for themselves. Resenting my own lack of removing his chores from my life.

What I am experiencing is his weakness in places I carried him, and how it is hard for him as he learns to take control of his own life, and the consequences in failing to do so.

It is hard to know when to let them ride and when to kick them off, but I am thinking we under estimate their power.

And the lightness of my load is hard to explain, it is like coasting down a hill feet off the pedals, at least the pedals of his life!