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Survival Mode and an Alternate View of Narcissism

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Survival Mode and an Alternate View of Narcissism.

Please read this article….it is amazing in how it sets up the frame work that disables the child and hides the abuser….and how it continues on into the present day within my family of origin.  Amazing.

Below are a few paragraphs from the article.  

 “So many ‘victims’ of dysfunctional family systems or any type of abusive or one sided relationship see themselves as the one who might be the narcissist.  Narcissistic people groom their victims to always look at themselves and make every effort to avoid letting anyone look more closely at them. “


“It is easy to groom children to regard the adult with reverence. And if that child grows up in the belief system that the child is always the one at fault, it is easy for any other adult to step in and continue inflicting this insistence upon ‘reverence’ on this now grown up child.  Children don’t just reach a certain age and suddenly the blinders fall off. If no one ever empowers the child to realize that their worth is equal to all others, the child (adult child) will never come to realize it. If the false belief remains operating as ‘truth’, then the adult child will continue to believe dysfunctional relationships are ‘normal’. “


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2 responses to “Survival Mode and an Alternate View of Narcissism”

  1. Juliana B Avatar
    Juliana B

    This makes so much sense to me! I spent 5+ years in a codependent’s support group trying to figure out what the link was, and although I didn’t define it as this article does, I did come to understand there was a connection. I think it creates a huge barrier to developing healthy self-worth and self esteem when you are being taught that you are basically worthless on your own merit.
    Thank you for writing your blog. I enjoy reading your insights, and I love the analogy of imperfection being perfect just as it is. “Perfection” — being without flaws — is an unrealistic goal. I appreciate you. :o)

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  2. Beth Jukuri Avatar
    Beth Jukuri

    Thanks Juliana…I too enjoyed reading this article and could see that we are groomed to believe we are the problem and as long as they have us looking at ourselves, we fail to see who they truly are.
    I also love towards the end, where we are not to be lower than others as well as not being put on a pedestal.
    We need to recognize we are all equal.
    I am glad you can see the perfection of you!
    Thanks for reading and commenting. I enjoy hearing from others.
    Beth

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