I M Perfect lady

They remain Monsters.

While the discussions continue about abuse, what came to me is that there are two opposing views.  Two very different experiences and yet we want to paint only in one color…

I got to wondering, is this an affect from being raised in the FALC, where bad things can be changed back to good, via the forgiveness of sins, so the world really never stays bad….it is fleeting and illusive…not a hard fact.

Only the good remains seemingly steady, for if you falter, you can ask for a blessing and be returned to full goodness.  The bad doesn't stick, we are like teflon when it comes to sins.

Is this why it is so hard to get people to really believe and to stick with a label of abuser?  That we can really only see the good?  

For some reason we are very hesitant to hold onto a negative label….like IF we refuse to see some good, we are the negative folks.

I know, that I am seen as being negative for seeing my father as a pedophile. That I washed away all his good traits, due to his 'fault' or sin.  It is by far more my problem for refusing to bend him back to good…or good enough.  I am not as kind, loving or sane when I hold his sins before me…

Is it easier to just see the good and overlook the evil or is it easier to acknowledge the sins and hold them accountable?

There is a really insane system going on in these churches, where there is sin, but it is only recognized to be forgiven away.

Like you see it to erase it.

What would happen if there was no forgiveness of sins? What would happen to all these actions? Where would they go and more importantly WHAT would these people look like?  Say all the acts of 'sin' stayed with the person…that there was no way to separate you from your sins?  Then what? Who would you be?

Would you not be truth?

Somehow, the 'forgiveness of sins' is a truth remover.

When an abuser asks for the truth to be removed, he then loses the title of abuser…but the victim has no such truth remover…she is forever feeling the truth of the abuse. There is no escaping, no wiping, no erasing, no un-ringing the bell of truth.  

I will believe in the forgiveness of sins, when it magically removes all traces of abuse from the victim.  When it can return innocence back to the child…making them untouched.

Just as the victim remains forever changed so do the so called loving family members who abuse the trusting children in their lives; they remain monsters.



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  1. Martha Smalley Avatar
    Martha Smalley

    I heartily agree that these abusers are monsters. And I personally don’t believe that people are saints because they have their sins forgiven.

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  2. Beth Jukuri Avatar
    Beth Jukuri

    It is just interesting to wonder what is the use of the forgiveness of sins? Like how does it change the world, or just change your mind about someone? I used to believe in the forgiveness of sins, of it changing who I was, but all my sins followed me. They didn’t leave me.
    The forgiveness of sins couldn’t forgive or take away the bad mothering skills I had. I had to work like hell to change how I responded in life. If only, the uttering of a few simple well placed words would magically change us.

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  3. Martha Smalley Avatar
    Martha Smalley

    I don’t think it’s meant to be used as a crutch to explain away all bad behaviors/habits/desires. It’s a reminder to try and be a better person. Isn’t there some saying? “God helps those who help themselves”? We were born with free will. All we can do is honestly try and not be craven and whining.

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  4. Beth Jukuri Avatar
    Beth Jukuri

    Where in the church do they speak about restitution and changing behavior, or consequences to the victims? What I believe the main thrust of the church is to forgive. Do they offer classes for parenting, or for self empowerment and self expression or how to improve upon the repetitive sins? Mostly, I used to hear how sinful we are and how sinful the world was, and how needed to bless them away. Yet, there is a whole world behind the sins that goes untalked about. It’s consequences, the law of the land, the way it has affected others and how to help heal their wounds, etc.

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