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Fight the battle of Abuse alone.

"You can read and intellectualize the idea of rewiring your mind all you like, but you need to set the process in motion if you want to see results."

  Baron Baptiste

We can talk about changes that need to occurr and incidences that 'should' not be happening, but until we actually move in a new direction it is just air passing between our lips.  Nothing happens, until we move.

I can hear stories of abuse and the churches lack of responses, or their lack of education and resources; but it is all for naught, if the people are unwilling to move in a new direction.

I believe that many believe they "think" just like me, or "believe" just like me, that they do not condone or support abusers, and their lips tell me so…but their body moves in mysterious ways.

Intuitively I knew that my footsteps would follow my mother's IF I did not walk differently.  If I did not approach or face abuse…radically.

There just didn't seem to be a way to approach abuse in kind and gentle way, holding on to all relationships tied to it.  I know the churches, preach forgiveness, kindness and love…and prayer.  And, if it worked, there would be no abuse.

The shift that needs is on the other end of the spectrum.  It isn't about loving those who hurt you, but loving yourself enough to NOT be hurt.

Churches want to maintain their ideology and sentiments and their whole package and ways of treating 'sin'…while simultaneously taking a tough stand against abuse.

I have spoken to a woman of the OALC, and she has spoken to a preacher there, and supposedly, he will speak to the Elders to see what to do about abuse.

Doesn't it seem like it is a no brainer?  That a child would be able to tell you what to do. That it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that when a grown adult man rapes a child, what we all need to do.

While we are all passing air through our lips, the children fight the battle of abuse alone.

 

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  1. Earl Redinger Avatar
    Earl Redinger

    I wonder if it would be possible for those of us who are genuinely concerned to get the e-mail of this elder. I think you are on to the one thing that will get a result. I think these people in the power positions need to realize when this all comes out that they will not be able to hide behind denial and the whole congregation is going to pay. I know school teachers have lawful obligations, and so must the leaders of the church. Keep on keeping on Beth, we will win in the long run, and all because of the hurt that is put on the most precious gift we can ever receive. Our children! Love Earl

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  2. Beth Jukuri Avatar
    Beth Jukuri

    Thanks Earl. I did ask to have a meeting with the Elders, Preacher and the woman who I was talking to. We will see.
    I will see if there is an email we could use.
    There seems to be a loophole for reporting among the churches, but I guess, I believed that churches would automatically report, given their mission. I didn’t think that an organization who is ‘connected’ to God would have to be told to do what is right.
    This woman has a few daughters, and perhaps it is at least showing them how to start being an advocate or at least be brave enough to speak out.
    Yet, it is worrisome that their movement will depend upon the Elders.

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