I M Perfect lady

What I should have known, but didn't, is that a person will only hear, if he has nothing to lose.

It isn't the power of our words, nor the facts of reality; but literally how what we say impacts their world.  What will it cost them to hear us.

What part of their world will end?

What person's imagine will shift and change?

What will it then require of them to bring it in?

I am exchanging words on a blog and noticed how confrontational the conversation becomes when I bring up sexual abuse and the FALC in the same sentence.  

However, when I have spoken of my sexual abuse and the FALC with folks who are not in this faith…the flow is completely different.

My story doesn't change, the facts don't change, the people don't change….but the listener is different.

The sentiment of the original blog, was to bring up the subject of sexual abuse within the families of the FALC, and to also challenge its members to act.   

Through the commentary on the comments…you can see the steep hill that will be needed to start making a difference.

I am not sure what will mobilize them; for there isn't a stir towards the victims, but much action towards defending the church and its people.

What I am also so amazed by, when we mention abusers in the church, no one asks for names….locations etc.

Now, if there was a murmur of a teacher in a school district that their child attended, you would see a riot erupt.

Isn't it so fascinating how the mind works.  How it knows what will affect your life, what will change your world and the cost of truth entering in.  And, it will put up a righteous fight to keep your world unchanged.

I didn't know that in order to have an open mind, you have to be willing to lose it all.

Or, have nothing left to lose.

Our minds hear, not our ears.  It isn't the truth itself that matters.  It isn't the content, or the precise facts; but rather what we personally will lose if we were to hear, hear, hear what a victim has to say.

Or, not even a victim. 

A friend…who can see clearer; because they have nothing to lose to see your truth.

Our minds create our worlds over reality.

I know, that I personally, had a completely different view of my whole life.  There was very little that touched reality; yet I believed in it wholeheartedly.  

Someone suggested I seek therapy.  

I would suggest they seek reality.

The greatest therapy that I have had, is the lessons of bringing my mind into reality.

You have to be willing to lose it all, in order to gain the incredible thrilling and brilliantly devastating reality.

Once you walk with reality; you will not settle for the world the mind creates.

My ears have an open mind…and I have learned to lose with grace; to reality.

Some may say I am black and white; that I don't know where the grey areas are.  All I know is what is reality and what is not.

Who has an ear willing to hear…

And, who has too much to lose.