I M Perfect lady

In an interview, Oprah spoke about losing friends/family over the differences they had in Value…

This struck me.

For, it is truly the line of separation in relationships.

What are your values?

Who do you value?

Can two people with opposing values relate to each other honestly?

I had to look up the meaning of Value….

"a person's principles or standards of behavior; one's judgment of what is important in life."

This is the way we relate to each other and perhaps find the level of trust and appreciation…when our values match.

I truly have left so many relationships based on value.

Principles and standard of behavior IS what I go on.

You can tell what a person values by how they behave and what they allow.

I used to have a very one-sided view of relationships, in that, it was how I acted that only mattered.  I didn't allow myself the freedom to walk away from poor behaviors.  Believing that a 'good daughter' would stay no matter what.  

Friendships have cooled and reached the level of social niceties…due to the lack of mutual shared values.  I tend to move away from lower value behaviors.

I know what it requires to attain value of integrity…and high levels of self-worth.  

Often we think, that this is done by you yourself doing something great.  When actually it is it walk away from behavior that reflects their reduced value of you.

What I failed to appreciate years ago, was that when I was treated poorly, it was their value showing…not mine.  My value is how I respond.

The only way for me to keep my value is to disallow others treating me like I am worthless.

I think, people think, that they can keep themselves protected by others poor behavior while still being in relationships with them….when in fact, you are the company you keep.

The old saying "Birds of a feather…."

You are literally as valuable as how others treat you.

You set the preciousness tone.

My value was pre-set in the dysfunctional family at roughly zero.

I had to achieve my value by ending relationships with those who didn't see my value. 

It is an arduous journey to gather value by walking away from those whose love hurts.

On one hand you reclaim a beautiful part of you and on the other you lose.

It is an exchange.

Celebrating another facet of you…while saying good-bye to the old that had no value.

It truly was a journey back to myself and discovering my self-worth after each ending.

There was a price to be paid and the price was finding out I was priceless.