I M Perfect lady

Examples of an Imperfect woman

  • Adult Choices.

    In the past few days, a concept has settled more firmly in place, an understanding of how life goes and how we go with it or struggle against it….how, IF we have a clear and firm knowing about ourself, we… Continue reading

  • They remain Monsters.

    While the discussions continue about abuse, what came to me is that there are two opposing views.  Two very different experiences and yet we want to paint only in one color… I got to wondering, is this an affect from… Continue reading

  • Say Nothing.

    On Ex-toots blog, she asks the question, "What can we do to try and make it safe to speak up?" How does a religion create an unsafe environment for victims telling about abuse? How is it possible that in the… Continue reading

  • Would you Sign?

    I asked a pastor friend about the Mandatory Reporting within churches, if they were like Learning Institutions….and here is what he said. "We are mandatory reporters just like the schools. Also, there could be board liability that would be settled… Continue reading

  • Lower the Wall of Indifference.

    I heard a phrase while listening to an audio book today… "Impenetrable Indifference"…and that to me is precisely how it feels to speak about abuse with a member of the FALC church…it is near impossible to get a raised eyebrow, a… Continue reading

  • Sit Silently No More

    What words of advice could I give to someone who finds themselves facing sexual abuse within their families. Are there hard and fast rules?  Do some roads lead to sure road blocks and stunt healing and others that speed things… Continue reading

  • Injects the word fear.

    Here is a interesting writing on Fear….or perhaps what fear stands in front of, by J.Krishnamurti in his book, "Commentaries on Living, 2nd Series" "Why do you engage in welfare or in any other kind of work?" "I suppose it… Continue reading

  • From his point of View.

    There is a separation, that comes naturally in parenting, that sometimes feels like disappointment and worry, an un-natural split.  When a child makes their own choice that is in direct opposition of what we want/dream/desire for them.  It is more… Continue reading

  • Enough to Lie

    Dr. Maya Angelou wrote this about her mother…"She's very intelligent and often said she didn't fear anyone enough to lie."  Isn't that an interesting line.   Lying is when you are afraid.   Afraid of the other person…or you feeling… Continue reading

  • Mismatched Folks Together

    Many years ago when I was talking to a therapist, she mentioned that in families where there has been abuse and dysfunction, you will have to rise to a social level with them, leaving behind the more familiar family interactions…to… Continue reading