Examples of an Imperfect woman
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No longer fighting reality.
For the past 7 and a half years, I have been working on my inner landscape, trying to sort through files and beliefs that were built to protect and hide the darkness of abuse within the Huhta family. I… Continue reading
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Cover Up
In listening to Iyanla Vanzant speak to Oprah about Family Secrets, I learned a few things. One, that secrets are usually to protect someone….and secondly, that it is due to shame and guilt. Also, Fear of a consequence IF… Continue reading
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The Net will Open
"Repetition is not failure. Ask the waves, ask the leaves, ask the wind. There is no expected pace for inner learning. What we need to learn comes when we need it, no matter how old or young, no matter how… Continue reading
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A Pretend Life.
Ed Bacon writes about Truth in his book, "8 Habits of Love – Open Your Heart, Open Your Mind". "It is important to remember that Truth is not a set of ideas anyone can memorize or systematize and then expect… Continue reading
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Learner of Abuse.
I am reading "8 Habits of Love – Open Your Heart, Open Your Mind by Ed Bacon. It is interesting in how we see ourselves in our story, as a victim, a hero or a learner. In writing the story… Continue reading
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Kindness is Blindness.
The lack of seeing life as it is, is the greatest veil that falls upon us in abuse. Our minds simply refuse to see the changes in the behavior of another. We keep the old image, the old file, the… Continue reading
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It wasn’t true.
I never knew pretend relationships could hurt when they ended…or that I would feel pain of being deceived. What is so odd, is that the pretending was so that I would not feel bad. In the end, the feelings were… Continue reading
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Their View of Reality.
What I have noticed is that in order for some to maintain a certain reality, I become the one with the problem. It is easier to label me incorrectly than it is to label correctly reality. I did not realize… Continue reading
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Grace of Truth
One factor in abuse, is that many are taught the wrong definition of "Unconditional" love. Here is what Mark Nepo says about that. "Unconditional love is not so much about how we receive and endure each other, as it is… Continue reading
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Extreme was Normal.
In Michael Singer's book, "The Untethered Soul – The journey beyond yourself" he writes about balance or how it is to live in the extremes. "The more extreme you are, the less forward movement there is. You carve a groove… Continue reading
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