http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/12/16/i-am-adam-lanzas-mother-mental-illness-conversation_n_2311009.html?utm_hp_ref=fb&src=sp&comm_ref=false#sb=1306580,b=facebook
The link above is by a woman who truly understands how tragedy happens…it isn't about the lack of gun laws, nor is it about there being no religion or God association in schools, it is about the delicate balance of the human mind.
It is about mental illness. It is about the fact that it isn't easily treated as it would be to change the laws about guns. It would be easier to put the Pledge of Allegiance back in the schools, compared to coming face to face with dealing successfully with an imbalanced mental health of a child.
For some reason, it is easier to not look at mental illness. Yet we all say, "who in their right mind would do such a thing?" The key is they are not well. The are no winners in this. The child who is out of control is equally a tragedy.
I can't even begin to imagine living the life of this mother…to have a child whose brilliance is so bright and his darkness so dark. Who do you love and support? Knowing when you lock up the darkness, his sensitive brilliance is compromised.
As long as we talk about guns and not the mental illnesses and the lack of support and help for this mother and family, we will be guaranteeing more tragedies to come. We are not learning our lessons.
Guns are not the problem. God in schools will not be the answer to the mental illnesses that are plaguing these children. We need to have clarity on where the real root of with these incidences lay.
These children and their parents are both screaming for help and we are turning them away for there is no room, no program, no solution…etc.
Stop looking at the guns and start looking at these children.
It seems horrific that prison is the answer…and that we don't see the child behind the gun…until it is far far too late.
We are smarter than how we act. It would be like banning cars due to drunk driving.
What can we learn? How can we help the boys/girls with mental illness…what can we do to save them from themselves…which in turn will stop these tragedies from happening.
It isn't that these children are out of control, but we are. We are literally spending time and words arguing about guns. We are not in control when we believe that guns and the lack of God in schools will stop a child with mental illness from acting out the only way his mind will let him.
He needs us to get back in control.
Controlling how we see the problem…
Humanity as a rule sees what it wants to see and disregards the rest. And the rest, is where the solution lies.
I get this maddening desperation of the mother….while everyone speaks of guns and the lack of God in schools, she has a child out of control.
She knows changing gun laws will not stop her son.
She knows using the word God in school or adding prayer, will not change her son.
It is time we all see what she sees…and put action where it matters.