Love and its application, how does each person apply love?
How do they know what to love and what not to love, or how to love and how not to love?
The choice in love is not a given. Are we able to chose or not chose to love our parents, our siblings, even what we love to wear at an early age?
The freedom in the Love is the key to if love is dysfunctional or not.
If we can love from the self-view, or we can call it self-loving view, if we can decide ‘I love you’ or ‘I don’t love you’ then it is love from the inside.
If it is love that is decided for us, demanded or expected of us, then it is not real love, but a commanded love.
Unless you have experienced the free love, the choice love, you will feel that we walk away in anger.
It is so not the case. I walk away with love inside, with approval of self, with my self esteem held firmly in place with all my no’s and yes’s coming along for the ride. I am a total package of freedom.
This kind of love allows the other person to do and be what it is they want to be, but it gives us the right or privilege to move away.
When you love yourself enough, was a title of a small book I read once, a book where there were just a few words on a page, more like quotes, and that term stuck with me.
When you love yourself, you will not put yourself in harmful places, you will walk away from those who blindly hurt you.
When you love yourself, you don’t need others to fill you up or prop you up, or do this or that.
Love isn’t about what you can give to the other, to complete the other; instead love is about letting the other be free to do the job of being themselves.
I used to be in other’s businesses, but now I stay in my own.
Each of us come with the same advantages or challenges along the way, and if we are seeking to learn, there are a million opportunities to learn each day.
Opportunities to learn about our self and how we, love both others and ourselves. It isn’t about changing the other to make them more loveable, but rather finding someone that matches our meaning of love.
Of course the most optimal thing is to find this among your family, your sisters and brothers, but often we have to leave them in order to find love.
I used to have a set of love rules that did not apply to family, family had a free pass, and it required nothing of them.
It allowed them to less of themselves. What I called love was actually love of enabling lower standards.
I was in support of those doing and being less, remaining at lower level so I could ‘help’ them.
But my going in and helping was enabling them not to help themselves.
When I became responsible for just me, it freed them to be responsible for just themselves, I was the one to set them free.
If I continued to believe that they couldn’t live a life without me, that is co-dependent, and it has me thinking less of them.
I do believe to the depth of my being that each and every one of us comes into this life to learn what love is, to learn what self is, to be separate and whole.
I also believe that we are given daily ways in order to do that, chances to make a new choice. That there is a subtle or loud voice in our heads that is seeking for us to change, sometimes it is actual life being played out in front of us.
Look around and see what is going right or what is going wrong, how often you are at peace with your voice or when you suppress what you feel and why.
I lived longer silently and ignorant of using my own voice.
I talked lots, but mostly I was a mouthpiece for others.
I now only speak for myself.
If I can find my voice, I know others can too.
I heard my voice whispering in the backgrounds always, but I was too fearful of the consequences to speak.
Now I am fearful of the consequences if I don’t speak.
In the past my body and inner feeling was to move away from my father, but I stayed close.
We all know the cost of that silence.
I will never Not listen to my inner voice, my inner feelings, no matter at what cost to the other person.
Love is being brave enough to move away.
Love knows you can.
When I moved away all my love came with.
My love moves with me where ever I go, what ever I do, my love is like my breath now.
Without my Love I would not want to live.
It isn’t living without love it is simply surviving.
Surviving isn’t living it is trying not to die.
How many people are just trying not to die instead of really living?
I Love so I can Live.
I M Perfect lady 