Tag: leaders

• Waiting to be told.

  I thought came to me why no one is asking, why no one is making an independent move,for they all are waiting to be told.

  Not told there is a pedophile, but told what to do.

  As far as I remember, the church was setup and families set up for there to be one dominating figure, be it God, Father or husband.  It wasn’t a place where individuals were able to think for themselves or act independently, it was driven by the Head.

   The Head of the church or of the family makes the decision….we wait for the okay.

  And the Head, which we have approached, are not interested or responsive. 

  It is my humble opinion that they will sit in the pews waiting instruction from on high.  And I feel to the depths of my bones, it will not come from that direction.

  When my children  have choices to make I offer them my viewpoint and then I say, honey, this is your life and your choice, you will have to make the ultimate decision, it is not something I can do for you.

  And I can see them weighed heavy by the choices, and we both wonder what will their minds and desires tell them to do.

  As I was pondering my oldest daughter and a choice that has arrived in her world, it came to me that many in the FALC, haven’t ever been given the liberty of choice.

  The church has always made the choices for them. 

  Wear this, don’t wear that.

  Listen to this, don’t listen to that.

  Don’t watch TV, don’t go to Movies.

   Go forth and multiply.

  What I feel down deep is that they are waiting for directions on this, from the pulpit, from the boards or the leaders within. 

  And I also feel this is beyond what the Leaders have been prepared for, have been taught or educated on.  This is out of their league, and damn it, it would be wonderful if they would just say so, instead of saying and doing nothing.

  Saying and doing nothing will not change the outcome.

  There needs to be a fearless leader to stand up and take charge, or the church will decay and fall apart from the inside out. 

  It was always preached that the devil lurked outside of this religion, now is the time for them to stop looking outward and instead look within.

  It pushes me into my chair, to believe that many fine folks are doing nothing, because they are waiting to be told.

   

   

  September 1, 2011

  being, choices, do., FALC, leaders, to, told, what

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• A group of Individuals.

  What is the reason we join groups? What is the benefit and what makes some groups thrive and others fail? Is the group more than a reason and can the reason change? Is it a purpose or is it the people and can it be both?

  In my experience there is a feeling in a group, or energy, an actual unseen thread that flows to keep all of us connected, and that unseen thread seems to be strung by a leader and the leader’s energy is what we tag onto.

  But yet the group also is like a chain and we are only as strong as our ‘weakest’ member.

  If there is passive aggressive behavior toward one, it weakens the group.

  It is very interesting how you can all join together for a common good, yet individual energies can undermine the original intent.

  I am a member of two different groups and I can feel the energies in both.

  The freedom of one leaves me being free to be me.
  The obligation in the other feels heavy.

  A weight to carry my weight, and not so much mine, but I feel the ‘weaker’ ones feeling unworthy for it is impossible to do what the leader wants.

  Groups I believe are only as strong as the person who attends. If you make them feel less, the group is less.

  If you have an unconditional welcome, allowing each person to travel at their own rate, they are allowed to be free.

  In my life experiences, I have given up trying to conform others to where I am. I simply allow them to be where they are, and it isn’t where I am.

  This sometimes leaves me being a group of one.

  Yet better than dragging folks who are not where you are to where you are, unhappy and not willing.

  It is interesting too, that we are drawn to groups with similar energies and propelled away from others.

  My religious experience was very cult like and you and to be a certain way to stay in the group.

  My Art group is wide open…you are free to come and free to go, you are free to create, or free to just watch, there is no agenda, except being free to be you. Well maybe one…you can’t tell another what to do.

  It is more like a group that isn’t a group, just individuals arriving together, sharing common but uncommon pieces, all original works of art.

  In an art group, the people and the objects are allowed to be unique, different, and individual.

  A group of individuals.

  December 17, 2010

  aggressive, dynamics, energies, groups, joining, leaders, link, passive, purpose, reason, weakest

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