“I don't know what is best for me, or you, or the world. I don't try to impose my will on you or anyone else. I don't want to change you or improve you or convert you or help you or heal you. I just welcome things as they come and go. That's true love. The best way of leading people is to let them find their own way."
Byron Katie
An old friend surfaced and I felt myself not being seen or validated, and what instead was happening, is that I wasn’t validating her.
The stress inside of me was that I wanted her to be where she wasn’t, to speak and think in a way that was impossible for her to do so.
I wanted her to have my relationship with God, my experiences of life, and my views and to feel what it is like to be in my shoes. Insane? How unkind of me to not understand that she simply can’t, for she is in her own life doing her own thing.
How awesome we each get our own life, our own business and our own pathway to God.
There is an article “Seana Corn’s First Lesson in Yoga, (on Oprah.com click on Spirit) which again expresses that all people are on their own path, which is what I needed to read today, it cemented in me, that her and I are both right in our own way.
I no longer feel the need for her approval or validation, I allow her to be on her own pathway, but without resentment towards her.
So quickly I get lost in the community approval thing, where I seek another’s validation, like that will make my life better, easier or more than it already is.
I truly honor her path, wherever IT leads her, and I am sooo grateful that I am not a ‘leader’ for her, for I have no clue what is best for her, like not even a little.
It is amazing the way the resentment dies as soon as I accepted her as herself.
You be you…
I M Perfect lady 