I M Perfect lady

There is a gigantic system that some want to overlook when we see grown adults too afraid to make changes in their lives…the affects of being born into a cult and or an abusive family within a cult.  

There isn't a normal choice button offered to us…it is removed very early on.  We are unable to make a change without there being drastic consequence.  In fact, the reason we let our choice button get removed, is that we didn't want the coldness, so we capitulated.  We wanted to be loved and accepted, so hence we followed along.

Now, in order to not be a follower and to stand on your own, you will suffer the consequences you didn't want to suffer as a child.  

In my experience, you remain silent and submissive, so as to not experience what you know awaits you if you change courses.  Out of fear, you remain the same.  

It isn't a choice with equal consequences on each side. But one is going to go better for you than the other. 

Neutral consequences is what is lacking.  It should be about what you want, and not what will happen if you make a certain choice.  This is where the freedom to be silent is removed, and in its place is a burden to bear.

It is the weight of what it will cost to say what you need to say, that sits with me. 

We are fooling ourselves and discounting the position they are stuck in, by overlooking this.

It isn't about the silence or speaking at all…it what sits on the scales with them.

Which is total manipulation and control.

Children are groomed to do what others need in order to spare themselves the pain of going against them.

This part of abuse, I overlooked.  

Even though I lived it…my life reflects this consequence.

I totally get and fully understand the fear, for intuitively each person knows what happens if you cross the line.  To overlook this part is to not fully see the whole part of why many give up their power, their lives and their free choices.

They do so to be loved.  And I would challenge is it love?  My new definition of love is freedom.  If you are not free to speak, free to move, free to be….it isn't love.

Abuse is when you have no choice.