FALC
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Cage of Silence
Silence is the least effectual response to sexual abuse, and yet the most widely used. Silence keeps your world operating as if nothing happened. Silence sits with fear and terror. Threats, and just the natural ugliness of abuse, demands… Continue reading
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Be the Final Word
When speaking out about abuse within the community of the First Apostolic Lutheran Church, I had intuitively knew it wasn't going to be welcome. But over the past 13 years, it does continually surprise me, how quick they reach the… Continue reading
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Fragments of Similarity
What is always curious to me, is when people come upon my blog and my writings about abuse within the First Apostolic Lutheran Church, rarely is there any concern. More often there is righteous defense for its honor. Here is… Continue reading
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Movie of You
More from "Emotional Agility" by Susan David "Identifying Your Values" "The word "values" can have a scolding, Sunday-school connotation that's pretty unappealing. It feels restrictive, or punishing, or, worse, judgmental. We hear a lot about having the "right" values (or… Continue reading
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Norm in my world.
"Evil only prevails by making it the norm" Maria Popova Doesn't it seem insane that this could actually happen, that we can with our words and actions, literally make evil seem the norm. So many times, I have heard apathy… Continue reading
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To Be
I loved this conversation. The tone and its ideas. I too, knew it. And I could really relate to this segment about the three responses when something is crumbling or broken. And, agree about the crumbling of… Continue reading
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Be where your feet are!
I am not sure if the FALC would consider themselves "Fundamentalist" but the article below certainly helps explain a lot of what I have experienced. It explains how anyone outside of their religion is wrong. Period. http://www.rawstory.com/2016/11/the-dark-rigidity-of-fundamentalist-rural-america-a-view-from-the-inside/ Here is a… Continue reading
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I Didn’t Know
When two sides can't find common ground, how do you find a foothold? How can we hold on to our own values and morals when others believe in the opposite? When ignorance isn't so much that they don't know;… Continue reading
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Tribal shaming
There seems to be a disconnect in our minds about the statistics of abuse; that 95% of the crimes are with someone we know and of that percentage, 50% is with a family member. We are not sitting with, and… Continue reading
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Move along.
Every now and again, there is a bubbling up of voices about abuse in the FALC. It rises with contentious overtones, heated words exchanged, deflected and tossed back…and then grows silent. The two sides failing to find a foothold on… Continue reading
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