"Revenge by Proxy" is a term that I first heard spoken by Rob Bell. Do you know this term? How often have you forgiven someone and yet when something bad happens, you feel like the scales are now back in… Continue reading

When it comes to doing things just for your Self or for keeping your word, I believe that women are by far worse at leaving themselves, to take care of others.  It doesn't even matter the date they promised themselves… Continue reading

    I think I figured out the reason Cancellation is such a trigger for me.  In the old days when I was separated from me due to religion and abuse, I didn't know how to stand firm for me.… Continue reading

I have been wondering about the reasons people change their minds. What causes them to make plans only to cancel?  Was it the thoughtless Yes in the first place; where they didn't really think through what they were saying yes… Continue reading

An idea turns into a dream.  You then take steps to make that dream a reality. You take steps in the direction of your dream.  You learn new things.  You stretch in ways you couldn't imagine.  You grow and change;… Continue reading

More from "Trust" by Iyanla Vanzant "MISMATCHES: EXPECTATIONS VERSUS CAPACITY" "When you are intimate with a person you have an opportunity to observe their actual capacities. When there is a mismatch between the expectations of one person and the capacity… Continue reading

Every time I read a quote about waiting…that "your time is coming" or be patient and good things will come, I bristle. It is a maddening scheme to keep you from enjoying what you have. Or, at the very least,… Continue reading

Is there a nobel silent space to be; a place where our silence honors us both and it is not a punishing silence?  Is the broken communication a peaceful spot?  What causes the breaks in conversations?  Is it the breach… Continue reading

"Steps for Developing Self-Trust" in Iyanla Vanzant's book "Trust". Lesson #1: Standing in your truth. You must learn that you can stand in the face of judgment, criticism, correction or rejection without falling apart. Learning to trust yourself means that… Continue reading

  I want to celebrate the mothers who do the right thing; not the easy thing.  I want to honor those whose mothering roles has been very costly; in pain, in courage and pure strength to go on. Mothers who forego… Continue reading