There is a land called, “It would be Nice” and it is full of wonderful well-intentioned dreamers, folks who are stolen from reality in a fraction of a second.
One second you are here, and before you even see yourself leave you are there, and once you are there; you can only know it by how you feel.
In the land of it would be nice, you feel unhappy, unsatisfied, discontent no longer wanting to be where you are, but someplace else doing something else, with someone else.
While sounding like a nice place, it leaves you uneasy.
No one warned me of this phrase and how it doesn’t allow you to feel what is going on right here and right now, for as soon as you say the words, “it would be nice,” you change locations and your feelings follow.
As Byron Katie stated in one of her books, you can be sitting on a couch and feel like it is heaven, until you think, “It would be nice to have a pillow”, and then you are uncomfortable with just the couch.
From Heaven to Hell without moving anywhere except in your mind.
The three words Byron Katie says cause the most suffering are, would, should and could.
What I didn’t know is that these words are the expressways out of reality, an escape route to a place far from where you are standing.
You mind leaves reality, and takes your feelings with, and all that is left is the physical body, but it can’t feel or know it is in the here and now, for the mind and awareness are gone.
Have you ever driven a car and can’t recall passing things, like ‘mindless driving’. Your driving but your mind is elsewhere, that is leaving reality.
Once you are aware of how much you are not aware, it is scary to know how little in a day you are actually present and fully connected to what is.
Often times it is when you are doing ‘mindless’ tasks, or when you are where you don’t want to be, you visualize yourself to be elsewhere.
Most often you are unhappy with how life is operating at this moment and want to affect change, and do…but all you really change is leaving the scene in your mind.
Leaving what is for what should be.
Not wanting what is there or wanting more than what is there and even less, forever trying to arrange life to suit your mind.
I can visualize three islands, Would be, Should be, and Could be, the islands of life’s discontent!
It takes practice and sheer determination to not try and rearrange life as it appears, to just sit softly in acceptance being bent by life, instead of trying to bend life into what you feel would be better.
It’s to go from being a duck on a river trying to direct the flow, to being a duck floating in total submission.
Floating in total submission doesn’t take away from the duck or the river; it shows them in perfect harmony.
It seems insane that the mind wants to make corrections to what is happening right now, but it does, and perhaps that is the meaning of insanity.
Insanity is the mind trying to control the Universe.
I had to look up the word Insane.
It means, pertaining to, or characteristic of a person who is mentally deranged.
So, I had to look up the word deranged.
Transitive verb deranged-·ranged′, deranging-·rang′·ing. to upset the arrangement.
To upset the arrangement.
Does that mean to Upset arrangement of reality?
To be upset with life?
To want to arrange things better, different, more to your liking, to be forever at war with reality?
If it is true then we all are insane in various degrees, with mild or extreme tendencies, and perhaps the tougher reality is to swallow, the more extreme the Upset.
So when people get upset, due to the fact they don’t like arrangement of life, they are mentally derranged or insane.
The opposite of insanity is total acceptance to what is.
Is that right? That if you are not mentally with reality you are arranging it differently in your mind, you upset the arrangement to suit your needs, then you are insane.
If this is the case, then I truly was insane and mentally deranged for most of my life, and still fall into this position from time to time.
Insanity is to upset the arrangement.
I M Perfect lady 