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A Stress Gatherer

I had a conversation with a woman who does massages, and she shared that sometimes while massaging a body, it will release sorrow.  She also knows that there are oils that will help the body release emotional stress from the body.

 

I had wondered out loud, how that would be to have the body release things without the self knowing the story or history of the stress….like crying for no reason.

 

This reminded me of how I had cried for hours while driving home from Green Bay the summer before my father's secret became known.  How I had no reason in the world to cry, yet cry I did.  And it wasn't just silent tears flowing, but racking sobs.  Yet in my head or thoughts, nothing was there to support the sorrow.

 

If my father's story hadn't come forth, I would have just had this mysterious event, isolated from my 'normal' life an oddity…sorrow out of nowhere and attached to nothing, a rogue wave of immense sorrow…leaving my body.

 

Now that I know my history, it does makes sense.  

 

That leaves me to wonder about making the body cry or releasing sorrow without knowing why, without the background story?

Will the body be less stressed?  Or will the crying jag make you wonder where the unease comes from?

Very interesting to me to hear the body can release without the mind or consciousness knowing the cause.

 

In yoga, often times when my body is particularly sore or perhaps even after going deep into postures, I will express tears.

Yet, I know that I have had childhood sexual abuse, that is my root and it is lodged in the cells of my body…so it makes sense for me.

 

To me, it just seems better knowing what you are crying about…than to release tears in the body without knowing why.

 

If I had just released in the body, my body would continue to gather stress as I continued with my old life.  For I would have been in the same dysfunctional relationships, operating with the same thoughts and beliefs that grew from dysfunction. So, while a massage can rid the body of stress, it can't stop the body from going back and gathering more stress for there is no new awareness.

 

Perhaps massage, oils, and yoga is best used when you know your root source…when you are discovering your history.

 

Otherwise you again, are crying for no reason….at least no reason that you know of.

 

And if you don't know what you are doing to cause stress in your body, you will continue to be the stress magnet and the massages will be endless.

 

Getting down to the root source, to me, is the only way to stop being a stress gatherer.

 

 

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  1. amy byrne Avatar
    amy byrne

    I love this. Even if I can identify the trigger of what upset me..its still sometimes tricky to figure out the core issue. My sadness is a little easier to figure out, but my anger(which is sometimes rage) is much more difficult. Both are painful, but I wonder if my anger is what I let out before I’m ready to deal with the sadness that may be behind it? Is there a pattern we follow of letting out certain emotions? Like we do with death? Or do certain emotions come out with particular pain we have?

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    I M Perfect

    Amy, It is hard to sometimes put an actual event to the pain, sorrow or even rage, but letting it out helps, and even more importantly not adding to our already overwhelming amount.
    You can also ask yourself, what does this emotion remind you of, when in the past have you felt this way?
    Emotions are time travelers and most often mirror a similar event where it makes you feel like you did as a kid.
    Just ask questions of it, feel it and be okay feeling that which you are feeling. I wrote about it and explored many different situations fully, never again wanting to not know what was going on in my life. I became a witness, an observer while being present in my life, and then acting from my inside. Saying what I felt I needed to say…etc.
    I just know that our bodies are here to give us guidance and we most often disregard what it feels like. When it releases sorrow…it came from somewhere, someone and we need to know this in order to live a more authentic life.
    And we do go through stages with this and each emotion comes in bringing an aspect of our selves we have misplaced.

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    amy byrne

    I have heard and experienced signs in my body of stress..for example, I’ve been told shoulder and upper back pain and chest pain is usually a burden you are carrying. Fear, you may feel in your stomach. I’ve also had a conversation about an issue I was having and was guided through it by paying attention to where I felt anything in my body. In this particular case, I felt it in my hands and arms..which I was told could be about taking action. The body really is pretty amazing and I definitely feel that my mind and emotions affect my body. And visa versa, if I take care of my body, my mind feels better as well.
    The next time I feel something coming up, I will ask myself when I have felt this way before. What a great, not to mention, logical idea! I’ve been writing a lot lately but so far I haven’t been able to fully connect the dots or make sense of my ramblings! I think this will help a lot! 🙂

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