Tag: courts

• There is No End Game.

  In the past few days, between reading books, exchanging emails and dialogues, I have been shown the angst of trying to get a new response from an old system, and it is impossible.

  It is my belief, you have to completely abandon the whole machine, for the machine was set up with a mindset that can't be changed.  It will not allow a new viewpoint or new outcome.  

  The way our legal system is working is that it is not working…at least not for the ones who have been injured.  It is however, working rather well for the Lawyers who get paid to reduce the action down to nothing.  It is working extremely well for the perpetrators, and it isn't working at all for the injured party.  

  I don't know how the laws of the land were originally set up or why or what the expected out come would be, but I would have to say it is a colossal failure.

  Just in our little town on the front page of the paper, you can read time and time again how the charges are reduced, and the perp has been saved from serving time.  

  Yet, there is no mention about the second party, the injured party and how they feel or what it has done to their lives etc.  Where are the teams of people helping to see that the real innocent are taken care of???

  I am not sure you can now turn that big machine around.  For the judges, prosecutors and defense attorneys all know their part well, and it is a Justice System that is running without justice and no one seems to even care anymore.

  It is a system that was supposedly looking to find the truth, when the truth oftentimes is reduced and tossed out.

  IF this big machine called justice worked, we would be living in a land where the prisons would be shutting down due to lack of inmates.

  As a victim in the system, my justice was not served at all.  And there is no one in the Justice System who didn't know what my father did, yet for some odd reason, it works completely backwards…it works supremely well as Injustice.

  This system is just another system in the lives of victims that doesn't work.  It runs along the same lines as their childhood homes, where they innocent are treated unjustly, and the perps lives are given the utmost attention. 

  I am not certain I can even get you all to understand the wheels of justice are spinning in a totally wrong direction, and there are no cries of injustice, no picketing of the court house, nothing….silence, apathy.

  Each time you read in the paper another reduced sentence, a plea bargain, a this or that, and the abuser walks away with a few days in jail, you are witnessing the system abusing the child again.

  And no one says a word.

  It is my belief, that we can't change that big machine, but the healing of abuse will have to come from a totally different angle.  Our healing and wellness can't depend upon the system serving us justice and punishing our abusers, instead we have to find another way to heal.

  We have to stop putting our faith in a broken system. Stop believing that the Justice System will crack down on crimes and lessen abuse.

  Instead we will have to create a whole new system outside of the laws of the land, a system that deals with the victims…the hurting innocent.

  Just as the church is unwilling to deal with the abuse of innocent children, so is the law. Their jobs are clearly to rescue abusers from their truth, while leaving children alone again with no adult hearing and seeing their abusers in their true colors…instead they take the black actions and bring it up to a gentle grey…beige even.

  We the people of the land, have to find a new way to reach the abused children and heal them.

  A way to reach them where they feel that their truth matters.

  It is these unhealed wounded children who are the ones to next walk into the courtroom.  Soon, they will be standing where their abusers stand.  We are feeding an endless cycle the way the courts are set up now, there is no end game.

   

   

   

  January 10, 2012

  abusers, courts, crimes, cycle, innocent, lawyers

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• What we sow, we Reap

  As the Justice System continues to fail, we are asked or challenged not to fail reality. 

  Teens sentenced for assault – MiningGazette.com | News, Sports, Jobs, Michigan – The Daily Mining Gazette.

  The Justice System takes an action and reduces it, like it is a magic maker, like it can take something that was done and undo it a little or a lot, to go easy on the 'first' time offender.  When we can't know that.  It may be the First Time Caught Offender.

  The Justice System we believe is for the victim, that the victim will see her perpetrators 'pay' for what they did, and in the end, nothing happens.  

  We have been told to leave it in the hands of Justice, when the hands of justice are incapable of seeing the crime and staying the course, in fact people have jobs that are based on reducing actions to aggravated assault, in changing a rape to be sentenced like a punch.

  They literally get paid to see that the crime isn't accounted for.

  The Court of the Land is set up to support the offenders, it has them 'innocent' until proven guilty, but does its best to NOT see reality, by reducing and plea bargaining down…in the end it proves them more innocent than guilty.  And while they do this, we the victims remain more guilty and less innocent. We are still damaged no matter what.

  Wouldn't it be nice if the victim could have plea bargained down the crime, to reduce the rape to just a slap on the face?  Wouldn't a slap from a 'friend' hurt just as bad?  We were not given the option then or now.

  I know the parents of the girl and even the parents of one boy, and I am not an objective bystander, for I have great sympathies for the girl…for the one who couldn't reduce her pain to a lesser degree, IT was forced upon her.

  Reality always stands strong in her world.

  What I have learned from walking the walk of Un-Reality that the Justice System guides you on, is that it isn't the final word on these boys or families; the Universe or God balances all slates.

  While the court of the land and those who get paid to turn rape into slaps, feel that they have the power, they have only a surface level power, a false sense of balancing the sheets.

  The Universe pays no never mind to what the court of the land is doing, what the 'Blessings' of the church is doing, the Universe knows the score and can't help but give back to them what they sow.

  We are not responsible for their punishment, it is not our job.

  Each boy has to live with what he did and if he didn't catch the lesson, another one is headed his way.  He may not learn this time, but no worries, his life will teach him in a million ways about what he has done.

  While the father feels rage and wanting to balance the scales, all it would do is add more evil to an already evil situation.  

  What makes more sense to me is to see them for who they are and tell the world.  Act like they are rapists, even if the law wants us to see only aggragated assault, see the rape.  Know that they have energies inside of them that hurts girls.

  We are challenged not to change our minds as the law did.

  We are challenged not to delete away their actions.

  We are challenged to walk in reality and stand with the girl's truth.

  Unlike animals we Force ourselves to not see and not respond to the evil we experienced, to reduce it to a lesser degree and continue on as if nothing has happened.

  What messes most with the psyche and minds of victims IS that life continues on unchanged, when their whole world fell apart.

  We see the law of the land reduce and change and return the boys to a 'normal' life, while clearly their actions are screaming something is wrong with me.

  And there is something wrong with us if we too don't get their message. We too are held responsible for our responses. Are we treating them like hurt people?  Like someone who needs to be removed from society?  Or, will you 'forgive' and see them as normal.

  What another great example of why evil continues on with so many knowing.  There is no one connected to this case that doesn't understand and know that multiple rapes occurred, and yet with money and pleas, and a "No Contest" decree all that happens is 30 days in jail, but AFTER Christmas.

  Did you all know, that "No Contest" means guilty? But there are other added bonus attached…some may be that the Injured Party can't sue for damages etc.

  It is all a word game and exchange of words and sadly the meanings don't follow.  For no matter what you call the action, the action stands unchanged.  You simply can't reduce an action after it already happened.

  Reducing reality is only done in the minds of those who believe it can happen, but it changes nothing in reality. 

  Insanity is believing you can.

  What is so tragic is that the girl gets left with an insane reaction to a real crime.  

  When the law of the land responds this way, what recourse are you left with?

  At some point we will catch on that changing reality with words doesn't work…it isn't supporting the victims, but it works really slick on the offenders.  

  Why do they get a second chance and a clean slate, when she doesn't?  

  She only gets one reality….One Verse of what happened, she isn't allowed to change it.  Nor can we.

  We only can think it different than it was.

  We can each tell a story, but reality moves on unchanged.

  Reality is supported by the power of Universe, never underestimate its balancing sheet, it is impeccable….it is the all seeing and the all knowing.

  All we have to focus on is our own slate…what we sow, we reap.

   

  December 9, 2011

  abusers, balance, courts, crime, punishment, reality, Universe, victims, words

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• Actions towards Self.

  On facebook as we all add cartoon characters to our profile to stand against child abuse, we are just nudging the tip of the iceberg and the action steps needed are not for the faint of heart.

  I watched my father travel through the system that society has in place to ‘deal’ with the perpetrators, and I watched him exit the other end, a free man.

  After 40 years of abusing little girls, he was ‘tried’ on one reduce criminal offense. That is the court system in action. Believe it or not people were paid to act as a detective, act as a judge, act as defense attorney, and their actions all benefited my criminal dad.

  I watched my mother and her response to all this, how she visited him in jail, how she drove him (after he was set free) to her daughter’s house. Her actions enabled him til the bitter end.

  I watched my siblings, most who had been abused by him, act in accordance to their upbringing, using their definitions of conditional love do what they needed to do.

  Keeping the family together, knitting back after the hole that was ripped in its fabric, holding on tightly unknowing what they are holding on to.

  Actions of dysfunctional love.

  I watched actions and there were plenty of them, all the actions are supporting the pedophile, all.

  Not one supported the child.

  To support the child, the family falls apart.
  To support the child, the love is shown to be abuse.
  To support the child, the court systems not be a tunnel to pass through, but the end of the road.

  The child carries the weight of evidence.

  The child’s actions have to stronger than the judge, the detective, the family, and society at large.

  The abused child has to topple it all.

  The only hero I see is a brave abused child saying who abused her, and after telling nothing was done.

  Everyone failed her… one by one they fall.

  Somehow we feel if we can only get the child to speak of it, if we can teach them what to do.

  Guess what the child is the only one who is doing this right.

  We need to teach the judges, the lawyers, the families, the mothers, wives, daughters, and sons.

  We need to stop focusing on good touch bad touch, and focus on the actions and what they are really really doing.

  I am incensed by all of the folks who knew and did nothing well nothing would be nice.

  Who knew and then made their action step one that was for the good of the man who raped me.

  Like mad puppets, they responded like robots, pulling strings to see him free.

  Actions. Be wary of your actions.
  Who do they serve and what is their message.
  Who are you standing near?
  What chorus are you singing with?

  Actions.

  Actions are what I watched in total disheartening disbelief.

  I watched as once again, just as it was when I was but a little girl, all hands, deeds and actions moved to cover him.

  While I was displayed with my underwear down, my abuse showing, no one tended to my wounds.

  The detective pleaded that I wouldn’t allow this to change my relationship with my dad.

  My mother says, “forgive and forget and move along, we have wasted five years, now six” pull up your underwear and get back to the family tree. She is back where she once began.

  With all the actions, nothing changed.

  At the end of the scene all roles remain firmly in place, all except one.

  Mine. This required me to change me.

  Be the change you want to see in the world, it begins with you.

  I agree with Buddha.

  I couldn’t change the world, so I changed me.

  Actions towards self.

  December 5, 2010

  abuse, actions, changes, child, courts, failing, self

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