Tag: do.

• Waiting to be told.

  I thought came to me why no one is asking, why no one is making an independent move,for they all are waiting to be told.

  Not told there is a pedophile, but told what to do.

  As far as I remember, the church was setup and families set up for there to be one dominating figure, be it God, Father or husband.  It wasn’t a place where individuals were able to think for themselves or act independently, it was driven by the Head.

   The Head of the church or of the family makes the decision….we wait for the okay.

  And the Head, which we have approached, are not interested or responsive. 

  It is my humble opinion that they will sit in the pews waiting instruction from on high.  And I feel to the depths of my bones, it will not come from that direction.

  When my children  have choices to make I offer them my viewpoint and then I say, honey, this is your life and your choice, you will have to make the ultimate decision, it is not something I can do for you.

  And I can see them weighed heavy by the choices, and we both wonder what will their minds and desires tell them to do.

  As I was pondering my oldest daughter and a choice that has arrived in her world, it came to me that many in the FALC, haven’t ever been given the liberty of choice.

  The church has always made the choices for them. 

  Wear this, don’t wear that.

  Listen to this, don’t listen to that.

  Don’t watch TV, don’t go to Movies.

   Go forth and multiply.

  What I feel down deep is that they are waiting for directions on this, from the pulpit, from the boards or the leaders within. 

  And I also feel this is beyond what the Leaders have been prepared for, have been taught or educated on.  This is out of their league, and damn it, it would be wonderful if they would just say so, instead of saying and doing nothing.

  Saying and doing nothing will not change the outcome.

  There needs to be a fearless leader to stand up and take charge, or the church will decay and fall apart from the inside out. 

  It was always preached that the devil lurked outside of this religion, now is the time for them to stop looking outward and instead look within.

  It pushes me into my chair, to believe that many fine folks are doing nothing, because they are waiting to be told.

   

   

  September 1, 2011

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• The Responsibility lies within you.

  In the past week, I have heard two different ladies tell me that God wants them to be kind to people who are not kind to them…that being kind to unkind people is pleasing to God.

   

  Both say, it isn’t what they would do, but they truly feel this is what God wants them to do.  So to please God they act differently than how they feel.

   

  They put on a God Smilely Face, when inside they are feeling quite the opposite and believe this is what God wants them to do.  God likes them to be fake.

   

  I find this very interesting and quite unsettling that they, when they find themselves in a spot of where their real feelings would have them move away, that they instead put on a smile and blame it on God.  He wants me to do this…

   

  What kind of God is that, I asked?  I am sorry, but the God I know, would not want me to be fake nor have me be with folks who are unkind… For Him.

   

  To which I am met with silence.

   

  Oddly enough by blaming God and ‘acting’ in a manner you assume he appreciates, leaves you without having to make a tough choice.

   

  It leaves you not having to move, nor speaking up or presenting your inner truths.

   

  In fact Martha Beck in this months O Magazine, wrote about the problem with asking “What would Love do”…for many of us have the wrong definition of love.

   

  I would say the same of God.  What would God do, usually is what you feel is your highest option.

   

  And if your highest option is to be fake, I am uncertain who you are.

   

  Again, it leaves me wordless and shaking my head…to hear these adult women having to be false, to be unable to walk their own truths, to present their own feelings and move away.

   

  They stay to please God. 

   

  In fact one lady told me this was the meaning of ‘unconditional love’ to remain kind no matter what.

   

  I told her I have found that this is the meaning of abuse.

   

  That if you are unable to make a choice, to turn around, to leave, to speak your truths …you remain a victim.

   

  And the God I know would not want me to be without free will.

   

  It is easier to blame God and plaster on fake kindness than it is for them to face them and say what they truly feel.

   

  Instead of holding God responsible for your acting inauthentic, the responsibility lies within you.

   

   

  July 15, 2011

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