While I was learning how to live with my work changes, it came to me, that we can come to peace with things by not doing anything, but perhaps just thinking differently or by looking at someone who has it worse and then sitting back and feeling better, but not actually correcting anything in our own lives.
That I could actually numb myself to my own life by focusing on someone less fortunate, bypassing my own feelings by being falsely elevated from their lack or worse off situation.
While it is true, that there are many more lives in worse shape than mine, mine is the only place I live and feel.
When I talk myself into being okay in my life without making changes, but rather by picking someone who is suffering more, what I am really doing is giving myself the license to not be responsible for my own happiness.
On one hand I can feel better that someone is worse off and on the other hand, I can ‘blame’ my work for not being able to do this or that.
I am in a helpless life…and if I keep focusing on what others are doing, the less I focus on what I can do.
In life things flow in and out, grow and expand as well as shrink and lessen, it is all fluid and if we stand staunchly unchanging, we are victims of life.
What happens instead is when life changes and we change, we are moving with the flow of life, bending and allowing answering its call.
Adjustments are needed, not just witnessing of other folks suffering or being in a rougher situation.
We literally have to make exchanges.
If you fail to make the exchange, you then allow life to make it for you.
What is the saying, “when God closes a door he opens a window”…I am thinking we have to find the window; otherwise we sit in a room feeling like there is no way out.
Knowing that a window is possible, that it will take some creativity and changes on my end, I focus not on the closed door, but turn towards the window.
The key is to find the window, to turn and look around, seeking answers instead of sitting down helplessly staring at the closed door.
The closed door will not open and the answers are not to keep banging on the door with angry fists, you have to instead escape through the window rendering the closed door powerless.
It seems many of us will not change on our own, we need to have doors banged shut in order for us to look for a new insight, or to escape an old routine, to leave old pathways for new adventures, to get out of old jobs where our learning has stopped.
Some see the closed doors as punishment from the Universe, yet in my experience it was for my own good that the door remained closed and that I had to change in order to move and grow.
In my experience there are no rooms without windows…for each time a door does close, there is a way out.
I M Perfect lady 